If you search back and find my threads on my previous relationships you will find that I have had a tough time - my daughters father was a shit and then I went out of frying pan into fire ....... the next man was worse than a pysically aggressive pig..... he was a emotional and mental bully. He treated me like shit for 4.5 years and I was stupid enough to let him. When I moved in with him just over a year ago I was clutching at straws that werent even there to clutch. He then began bullying my daughter. He shouted, picked on her, constantly told her off....... I am lucky as I have a well behaved, easily amused child who eats well and sleeps well. he was never happy with her as he wasnt with me. Lots of things in life had got me down. BUT THE GOOD NEWS IS THAT I GOT OUT...... I GOT MY OWN PLACE AND ALTHOUGH I ONLY HAD A DECK CHAIR AND BLOW UP BED FOR A WHILE I NOW HAVE EVERYTHING I NEED. I CAN SAY HAND ON HEART THAT MY DAUGHTER IS BACK TO BEING A CONFIDENT, CHEEKY LITTLE HAPPY GIRL INSTEAD OF A SUBDUED SHADOW WHO WET HERSELF IN FEAR AND SADNESS. YES IT TOOK ME A WHILE TO GET OUT BUT I HAVE DONE IT AND HAVE ALREADY PUT EVERYTHING RIGHT. Please shout hello if you remember major mug or to show me (and other like me) some support. Mumsnet was one of my main supports along with my good friends both ones on here and others. I am usually busy, occasionally lonely and have even smoked a few cigarettes but nothing could be as damaging on mine and my daughters health as he was. I AM FREE. xx