Hello
I met a guy online and we have been talking for around 3-4 weeks. Before I write all of this just to make it clear I will NOT be meeting him but I just wanted to see people’s opinions as at first I thought I may have been putting myself off as it seems I’ve developed the Ick but i believe there are also red flags here.
I was really enjoying talking to him , getting to know him etc at first he seemed ‘normal ‘ which isn’t so common OLD. For context we are both late 20s with no children.
First thing I found strange was very early on in to talking he told me his mum was extremely ill over seas and sent a massive paragraph about it and his feelings and how he has to pay for her treatment and doesn’t have the money ( no NHS in the country she’s in) I found it strange as we barely knew each other .. first thing I thought of was he wants money from me. But he never asked and we moved on from that convo.
Since then he’s mentioned it again briefly and I asked him if he was trying to suggest I lend him this money ( I’d never do that ) and he said no he was just telling me what’s on his mind as he doesn’t want to be off with me .
He seems EXTREMELY dramatic loads of omg omg and wow wow wow when you mention anything to him he doesn’t agree with or call him out on stuff ( I had to do this as I felt he was becoming intense very soon and was wary of love bombing)
Comments like ‘you’ll be pregnant by the end of the year ‘ always mentioning how he hates dating and the process of getting to know ppl and basically wants to skip to the Rship stage.
Then finally.. we were due to meet this week for a walk however we were talking about how cold it is ( a lot of snow where we live ) and he suggested post poning to which I agreed.
He then went in some kind of strop and started reeling off all these plans he has (he’s not broke Covid rules once since we’ve been talking so this was strange) and said if we don’t meet this week he can’t meet till March. This confused me as he suggested post poning ?? When I said look it’s really cold etc it’s not going to be a nice experience he started sending essays saying ‘it’s winter it’s always going to be cold’ and ‘ waiting till March is to long but fine do what you want’
I won’t be meeting him as I know a lot of ppl on here will comment ‘ why would you consider meeting him’ so just to make it clear I’m not.
But just really shit .. I’ve met two ppl not including him on OLD in the last year ( when Covid permitted) One was a complete catfish and one I liked but he didn’t want to pursue anything after the first date and now this !