I want YOUR thoughts on this

[SaraSmith11]

My significant other (“S.O.”) and I occasionally have problems communicating. An issue popped up recently and I was hoping to get your thoughts.
I called my S.O. on Friday afternoon an hour before I got off work. They informed me they were going to go golfing with their sibling and I was welcome to join. I politely declined as I was in the midst of work.
An hour later, I realized my temporary workplace was close to the golf driving range and gave my S.O. a call as I wanted to stop by. No answer, no big deal as I was still wrapping up at work. I called a few more times before taking off about 30 minutes later. I sent a quick text “What driving range did you go to?”

About 15 minutes later my S.O. went to their golfing bag and noticed my missed calls and text message.

What would be the BEST response in this situation, a callback, or a text?

To be clear, this is not a huge issue, but I want to get your opinion on what the best method would be for communication here. Please either write in, a call back or text. Thanks so much!

If I had several missed calls I probably would have rung back. But text is perfectly fine

@MrsBrunch

OP: Am I bad at communicating?

I am totally bemused at this thread, OP says it is not a big deal -and indeed it isn't - so why post at all? Totally confused here.

I might have phoned. I might have texted.

I do know one thing though - my dh would not be angry if I'd done either or even neither.

Who gives a shit? Whichever would have been fine.

Literally no issue here.

If it was just the missed calls I would have phoned. If I saw phone and text I would have text my reply to the question.

If someone texted that particular question I'd reply with a text.

If I had several missed calls over the course of an hour followed by a slightly cryptic text I'd probably call back becuase it sounds urgent.

Text
But I'm guessing you were expecting a call?

As a text, "What driving range did you go to?" doesn't strike me as the sort of message that warrants a call back. So a reply by text would be ok.

You haven't said you can join them after all, and you haven't asked them to tell you where they are. Some people can't read between the lines and work out that's what you meant.

Yes OP. You ARE bad at communicating. You've just disappeared! Has this thread been any use to you at all?

OP obviously expected a phone call and was preparing to gleefully show her partner how wrong he was. However, as it has turned out that OP fucked up she has slunk off in embarrassment and we will never hear from her again.

Text

Several missed phone calls - I'd call back unless I know that person has form for calling repeatedly for no important reason in which case I'd text.

Several missed phone calls followed by a text clarifying what you wanted - obviously just text back because you asked a question that only needed a simple answer, not a conversation.

I agree with all the others, a text is enough.
Just keep in mind that they are doing the activity on the assumption that you are not interested to join in.

No big deal. I'd just do my own thing.

Not your question but I would have left him / her alone after I called the first time and got no answer. They're at golf, they don't need a load of texts/calls.
And if it was me at golf I'd probably text back, tell you where was.

How can you know your work place is close to the driving range if you don’t know what driving range they are at?

Text or quite frankly I’d ignore it and just crack on.

How many times did you actually call them? And why more than once? It’s a bit desperate.

I would have rung (as you'd attempted to speak to me several times) and probably left a voicemail giving the driving range if no answer. I also may, after ringing and leaving a voicemail, also text too.

I would definitely have responded BUT I really would not get worked up how the response happened. Surely you can't be angry for how he choose to respond to you? As others have said it's a non issue.

I’d expect a text, just to acknowledge that he’s seen your missed calls / texts and that he’d catch up later.

For what it’s worth I’d appreciate the text here otherwise I’d worry that something had happened.

If you knew your workplace was close to the driving range, then why did you need to phone to ask which driving range, when you already knew?

Also, you do realise that missed calls show up on most people’s mobile phones? There’s absolutely no need to keep phoning and phoning and phoning.

Picking up my phone and seeing numerous missed called would make me assume there was something incredibly urgent or some kind of emergency.

I think whichever way your SO replied, whether it was by text or call, the problem is you.

I would text.

I wouldn't really want to speak to someone who'd called several times in a 30 minute period, I'd think I was in for a frosty call!

(The text about golf range was last, so I would know it wasn't urgent.)

in Answer to your OP... I would text back to

a) to ask if everything was ok

and

b) tell which range we were on

not difficult 🌺

I'm sad that we will never get closure on this thread.

I'd of done the same as him and likely put the phone away - you need both hands for golf, and if it was a driving range, rather than a course, they were on, then would be hitting frequently so definitely not expecting to text. At the point of noticing texts and missed calls, I'd of rung back to see what you wanted.

@Awrite

I might have phoned. I might have texted.

I do know one thing though - my dh would not be angry if I'd done either or even neither.

Yes me too.

I suspect there is a bit of a back story here, where the op was not happy the response was not acceptable. I can’t think why though. No one is that desperate to go to the driving range.

@Janaih

I'm sad that we will never get closure on this thread.

Me too! I keep checking in, but only to be met with disappointment.