I want YOUR thoughts on this

[SaraSmith11]

My significant other (“S.O.”) and I occasionally have problems communicating. An issue popped up recently and I was hoping to get your thoughts.
I called my S.O. on Friday afternoon an hour before I got off work. They informed me they were going to go golfing with their sibling and I was welcome to join. I politely declined as I was in the midst of work.
An hour later, I realized my temporary workplace was close to the golf driving range and gave my S.O. a call as I wanted to stop by. No answer, no big deal as I was still wrapping up at work. I called a few more times before taking off about 30 minutes later. I sent a quick text “What driving range did you go to?”

About 15 minutes later my S.O. went to their golfing bag and noticed my missed calls and text message.

What would be the BEST response in this situation, a callback, or a text?

To be clear, this is not a huge issue, but I want to get your opinion on what the best method would be for communication here. Please either write in, a call back or text. Thanks so much!

It depends on what exactly had been said. If you had said, ' I'm near x driving range if you fancy going there I could meet you, if not speak to you later'. Then a call would have been best, but a text would do.

But if you'd just asked where he'd gone then text is fine

I would have left them to it after him not answering my call. Obviously they are busy golfing now and the moment to join them has passed.

If I was SO I would text back when I was able to. Probably to say what time I was leaving.

Why would you ask him what driving range he was at if you knew it was one near you though?

Either would be fine.

I would have text if I was I middle of golfing and with other people

@Duckberg

A text? I don't see how this is a big deal.

Yep- this^

I'd reply with a text in that instance

If I have missed calls from someone, I assume there's more urgency / immediacy than if there's only a text.

So in this instance I'd probably have called you back, since there were both missed calls AND a text.

But either would have likely been fine.

Not sure depends - I think I could very well do either depending on how much time I had and waht I was doing

A text. 'Just seen your message, I'm at X course'

A call, to tie up the 'situation' quickly as you could have been waiting at work or already home or waiting to hear which range he was at.

Text

You have built this up... so hoping this is not an anti climax!

Aren’t golf courses and driving ranges supposed to be shut??

Quilting all over the world ? OP could be anywhere

If you already knew where they were, why did you ask them which driving range they were at? You would have been better saying something less passive and more to the point like "hey, I made it after all, am outside!" That way they would know it was time-sensitive to get back to you (and presumably either meet you or let you in).
Why would it honestly matter whether they called you back or texted? Surely that's down to personal preference?

Text. Why?

Text, because the last thing you said makes it clear it's just about golf, so I wouldn't be worried about all the missed calls.

You called a few times in an hour? That's a lot. I thought the done thing on golf courses wasn't to be using your mobile phone. A text would more than suffice under those circumstances surely?

Text, I guess. Does it matter or does one have more meaning than the other?

Text

I'd have sent a text originally: 'just realised I am near to X range. Is that where you have gone, if so I could drop by ~6pm if that's OK?'

Are you always so needy?

OP: Am I bad at communicating?

I don't really know which is best because I can't see why it matters, either would do surely?

Also, why did you text asking which driving range they were at when you said you realised that you were close to the driving range when you were at work? Surely that implies that you knew which driving range they were at?

Not being arsey, just genuinely confused.

@LApprentiSorcier

Text, in case you were driving home by then. I never phone people if I think they might be driving.

If I assumed you were driving I wouldn't text as you couldn't/shouldn't read it until you had stopped. But you would hopefully answer a call hands-free.

But also, if I had been told you couldn't join me I'd call you when I had finished.

And driving ranges aren't the hugest of places. Would have been quite easy to stop by (as apparently you knew which one as you were close by) and see me.

Mountain and mole hill come to mind........