Been asked on a date!

[MamaOl93]

Yesterday I got a message from an old co-worker of mine who had moved further up the country, he asked me how I was and said he was back in our city, and after some flirting both ways, he asked me out for dinner once lockdown is over.

I then messaged back saying yes, and sent a couple other messages which he then didn’t reply to
So I sent one more with my number and said it’s there if you want to talk, he then responded “awesome thank you”

It’s so lovely to be asked on a date and I always did like this man when we worked together, so it’s lovely to think of something to look forward to, I just can’t shake the feeling I’ve over texted as I haven’t heard from him since giving my number. I was just so nervous and giddy after he had asked 😂 I hope I haven’t ruined it

Sounds exciting! Leave it now until he makes contact again.

Just wait for him to message back. If he doesn't, just leave it because it's now up to him. I think he will message as he was the one to ask you out so he must be keen, but maybe he doesn't want to look over keen.

@cherrypop86 this is most of my thinking too! I also don’t want to look over-keen, but also wanted to show that I was interested too as he made the first move. So hard to get the balance right 😂

Once lockdown is over is very vague...... I wouldn’t get too excited that this is actually a date yet.......

Go on the date if you arrange!
I had a terrible first date about 4.5 years ago but that was because I'd never met the guy. He rocked up in a hideous tartan shirt and weird boots and I just didn't fancy him! He messaged me afterwards and was really keen to meet again and tbf I felt a bit bad about "friendzoning" him and arranged to meet for a coffee.
I'm glad I did. Over time I slowly realised he was something very special. I allowed myself to fall in love after being very badly hurt in the past.
He's just downstairs feeding our eight month-old daughter her breakfast and we are very happy 😁

Well we can’t go on a date whilst lockdown is in place? 😂

And that’s a lovely story. It has been so long since I went on a date! 🙈

Given that lockdown might not be over for ages, it would be really awkward if you now had to keep up a constant strem of conversation for the next few months. How often did you write to one another before this flirting began?

If he texts you again. How about suggesting meeting up for a walk or something?

@ravenmum We lost touch when he moved, he messaged once back x

@Bluntness100 that... doesn’t sound like a bad idea at all! Thank you ☺️

A walk does sound a good idea. And maybe just drop the odd message here and there, sharing a news article or photo, without any expectation that you have to instantly respond or keep up a chat?

@ravenmum good idea too thank you ☺️

Yes go on a walk. I'm going on one with a guy next week. Thinking of wearing my muslin regency style gown and calling him Mr Darcy

Ooh, put like that it sounds fun - hope the tension is Austenesque :)

@LancesGold enjoy that! 😅

He hasn’t messaged still since giving my number, damn 🙈🤣

I just can’t shake the feeling I’ve over texted as I haven’t heard from him since giving my number

You don’t say how old you both are, but in my experience, people who are a bit older don’t chat over text in the same way as youngsters (it’s more a convenient way to make arrangements/communicate quickly). And men don’t text as much as women. So he’s probably just looking forward to meeting up in person?

Hi @Crosstrainer, I’m 28 and he’s 31. I know I’m probably overthinking etc, I’m just so not used to be asked out! It’s alien to me I don’t quite know what to do 😂

Unless you've missed out a huge chapter of the story and you are basically that woman in Love Actually who finally gets a slow dance with the coworker she has loved from afar for years, presumably it wouldn't be the end of the world if he didn't phone? Enjoy the nice feeling of someone asking you out, and don't worry too much about what comes next.

@ravenmum damn you found me out... haha no I know, it’s just so alien to me, I am enjoying it though, thanks x

Thinking about it, sounds like he plucked up the courage to text to ask you out. Did a bit of texting rather than launch straight in there, then when you said yes, thought “Phew - job done!”. He’s probably not much of a chatting sort of texter. Enjoy - hope your date goes well!

@Crosstrainer that’s true! Lol yeah probably! Thank you! 😄

After he messaged back I asked him if he wanted to go on a walk in the meantime before lockdown ends, and he said that we could do next week, I said yes and gave a couple of days I could do, but he didn’t respond to that message.

The next day was my birthday and he wished me a happy birthday and we shared a couple of nice messages, that was on Wednesday, today is Sunday, and he hasn’t responded to a message I sent Wednesday night.

What do I do and what’s going on here? It’s a bit confusing

Unless something catastrophic has happened it looks like he’s not actually into you.