What has put you off a date?

[honeysuckle21]

Just a lighthearted thread, just thinking of pre COVID dates and what put me off, what were yours?

I arranged to meet a guy for a Sunday drink in a pub in our local small town, he said to meet at one where no one would recognise him at the roughest looking place, I cancelled on him thinking he should of wanted to make more effort.

Another time, the date already smelt of alcohol when I arrived to meet him, he had a Tesco coat (I know shallow) a missing crown on his front tooth, told me it was my round! So left him there.
I think he must of used old pictures of him online.

One guy had HUGE eyebrows...I couldn't stop thinking about them. And he kept watching the football behind me. Nah thanks!

@TheVamoosh

A South African guy who asked me to stand up and spin around for him so he could get a better look at me. He then told me "I'd like to take you to the theatre. Can you dress to impress?" In his accent, it sounded like "Kin you drrriss to imprrriss?" I don't know what answer he was expecting. Maybe for me to feel swept off my feet, all eager and starry-eyed at the prospect of watching "Cats" with some guy I'd met in All Bar One.

This has made me laugh 😂

Driving way too fast.

Where do I start... all OLD stories...

The one who INSISTED we went to the aquarium for our 1st date. Turned up, we queued to get in for around 25 mins. We get to the front and he had "forgotten" his wallet. I paid, we walked around, and when we were done he wanted to go for drinks, on me of course. He was ghosted.

The one who was GORGEOUS and very sweet. Way out of my league on paper. Turned up to date, looking exactly like his pics but with a voice like Joe Pasqualie(?) I honestly thought it was a joke and had to style out a laugh when he spoke and then bolted after 45 mins and a drink.

The one who ordered 3 main courses at dinner, 2 to take home for in the week meals, plus a few beers for the walk home, then insisted we split the bill after my 1 main and diet coke. (This one rather creepily followed me back to the car after we had said goodbye too... urgh!!!)

OLD, and dating in general, is a minefield!

Forgot to mention the south african who, before we had even met, told me he was desperate for children ASAP but only wanted boys. He would not relate to girl child so only boys would be acceptable.

Umm. Okay. Bye.

Long way back. Had spate of dates where they gloated on date about how Thier ex was STUNNING and did modelling. Seriously? Told me they have a penchant for a beautiful lady. So so turned off.

In future if say don't tell me your ex was a model? If they said yes then I instantly blocked these arrogant losers who think it's acceptable to boast to a woman you are trying to impress by mentioning an ex. Such bad taste!

Also the off territory daters online. 'willing to travel anywhere for a date'..so married!

And the broke let's go Dutch or meet me halfway crowd. If they can't impress on date one...it's down in the ditches thereafter.

Here's another. Man had bad bad breath. But he seemed like a nice hang out. I had to tell him....

You need to book a dental appointment...you've got bad breath and it's an infection that needs seeing too else you'll lose your tooth.

He said i am afraid of dentists haven't been in ages. Is it that bad. I said more than bad..get yourself down there before you date anyone else you'll put them off.

@Woodlandbelle

These are so funny. I can't remember any bad dates except one to pulled out his eyebrows. He went travelling and he stayed in touch abd he sent me some, 😂 he was actually a lovely person and I often think about him.

He sent you some of his eyebrow hairs??

I was on a first date once with a guy and he mentioned my ex...by name...we didn’t know each other. He’d stalked WAY WAY back on my social media. Freaked me out! Plus his entire outfit was from COS which was just a big no for some reason

Had been talking to a really lovely guy, we went to a burger bar, he was wearing a cap, then when he took the cap off, he had a cap shaped dent mark on his forehead.

There was a man from POF long ago btw. He was cute, managed a hotel in the middle of water on a fort.

A few calls/texts and each time we made a date something came up. Last few times with me 'my fault'.

He gave me a "last chance warning". Then texted "good luck your loss". So odd.

Then a photo came unexpectedly a week later of his dick. "This could have been all yours if you played your cards right". I texted back "Phew I signed a bullet. PS you are so blocked"

Squeaky voice guy was annoying. Another told me off a few times and announced he was schizophrenic. One was staying in a hotel and seemed married. A few seemed married come to think of it.

Signed meant dodged.

First date with someone I met on a night out, as I got in his car he was pouting in his car vanity mirror applying lip salve. I wanted to just get out the car right then but soldiered through. He also smelt of palmers coco butter and I shudder now if I get a whiff of it,

After a first date with secondary school teacher that I thought went ok, he sent me a dick pick at 4am. I was more fucked off he woke me up to be fair but the vile dick pic was the nail in the coffin.

We were in the cinema and he nudged me and showed me his false tooth that he'd just taken out. Weird!

The guy who stroked my arms and launched himself to kiss me and I was so taken aback, I went with it....wondering how my face could be giving any green lights when I was going for neutral and polite...he thrust his phone at me to show me all his hobbies and pics on instagram then kept belching as he walked me to the bus stop and text the next day to ask about meeting for dinner. ..

I have so many comedy stories. A couple that spring to mind (different people)

A guy who showed me a PHOTO of the speedometer in his car doing over 120mph. So not only had he been driving like a wanker but had also taken a photo as he did it. When I was baffled about why that was supposed to be impressive he backtracked and tried to claim it wasn’t his photo

A second date in which he took out his phone to show me something and his browser popped up on a page called “how to make her your girlfriend”

A date in a coffee shop where he took off his jacket, suddenly felt ‘cold’ a few minutes later so came to sit on my side of the table really close to me. Ew. I asked him why he didn’t just put his jacket back on.

My worst date has to be someone I met via online dating. We arranged to meet for coffee on a Sunday afternoon. He looked quite nice, but was a total d*ck. Spent half an hour raving about the merits of Eddie Murphy films. Then asked me about my online dating experiences and said he had met this girl who he was still shagging but didn't like her !!

At the end of the 'date' he asked me what I was planning to do for the rest of the afternoon and then said was going over to his Mum's house so she could cook him his tea.

Needless to say I didn't see him again. I felt so bad for that girl

Had a ok date with a guy and I asked him if he was doing anything tomorrow (just small talk) and he said he was going to ride his bike over and come and see me. Nope.

My first ever date when I was 19 was interesting. It was at the local pub, where I worked. My mum was there (she worked there too), and so, I can’t recall why, was the brother of my best friend who was madly in love with me (didn’t know this at the time). All day round a table having a chat 🤣.

Anyway, date moaned about my crap mobile phone (this was 2001/2, can’t remember exactly). After he left he proceeded to text me, telling me he REALLY liked me and could see himself marrying me. I shoved my (crap) mobile into my coat pocket and shut it away in the cupboard for a week! Never spoke to him again, it completely freaked me out.

Now, I know it seems that the perfect end would have been for me to end up with my best friend’s brother. He did indeed declare his undying love for me a little later that year, but it was unexpected and it too freaked me out. I wasn’t comfortable with attention from men, for various reasons, and it’s a shame as he was a sweetheart.

Oh well. I’m married now, to someone who rarely gives me attention. I asked for that I think! 🤣

An old school friend who'd been quite cute at 15. Significantly less cute at 49.

Bad breath. Fussy eater. No idea how to behave in a restaurant. Slagged off his ex. Asked me how much I earned.

Quickest meal I've ever eaten..!

Pulling out his purse and counting change to pay for the drinks. It was a manly purse, but even so I found it strange. Perhaps he was too sophisticated for me.

Had a huge adams apple that bobbed furiously up and down when we talked.

We clicked chatting online but when we met he looked just like my brother 😭

When i met my dh. I was 17. I met him for a date as I was just getting over norovirus which I had caught from my DM whom worked in care. Anyways I wasn't hungry and felt sick. He asked if I wanted anything to eat in Meadowhall as he was having something. I said no. He said I was a cheap date!!!! He's an ass hole should have tang louder bells then