What has put you off a date?

[honeysuckle21]

Just a lighthearted thread, just thinking of pre COVID dates and what put me off, what were yours?

I arranged to meet a guy for a Sunday drink in a pub in our local small town, he said to meet at one where no one would recognise him at the roughest looking place, I cancelled on him thinking he should of wanted to make more effort.

Another time, the date already smelt of alcohol when I arrived to meet him, he had a Tesco coat (I know shallow) a missing crown on his front tooth, told me it was my round! So left him there.
I think he must of used old pictures of him online.

[ConkerBonkers]

After a first date, in my dates car, saying goodbye, he turned the light in the car off then leaned ito the middle of the car, closed his eyes, and puckered up. god knows what he was thinking. Oh my god, I couldn't get out of the car fast enough. So cringe.

[JemimaRacktool]

Honeysuckle21 Gusset. Whoppers.

If he can't wipe his arse what sort of a DP would he be? Bleurghh

[InsaneLockdowner]

I don't think I'll ever get with a bloke again.
They are all sex obsessed arseholes.

They all have the same traits. Blokesxin their mid 40s and 50s either slag off their ex, moan about maintenance for their own kids or tell me about their best sexual conquests and seem to think O should be impressed that they've tried swinging etc and apparently get the best reviews fir the size of their cock and how long they can last, on stingers review sites.

On really unlucky dates, I get a variation of all 3 of these nuggets.

I just cba anymore.

[RedRec]

Every now and then a thread comes along that really makes me laugh and fills my heart with joy. This is one of them.
The only time I ever went on an actual date when I tried OLD, the guy (ok, but a bit intense) had texted me loads of times by the time I got home (about a 20 minute drive) to say that he "must, must" see me the following day as he had some flowers in his car that he had forgotten to give me. That was a big fat no.

[debbs77]

When he got pissed after one pint, ended up arguing with me that treating cancer is mind over matter (my ex husband had recently had a cancer op so it was a bit raw as we had been together 20 years), put my hand on his erection on the train home, came in to mine to use the loo but instead took his top off and stood swaying. Then left to drive home!

[TossaCoinToYerWitcher]

Blokesxin their mid 40s and 50s either slag off their ex, moan about maintenance for their own kids

Funnily enough, I was just about to post "dates who ask me why I split up with my ex-wife/how do I get on with her" in my list of turn-offs!

I've had this on my last two dates. I think its too heavy - and sensitive - a subject to handle on a first date. My ex cheated on me so, yes, there was (and is) some animosity. So how am I supposed to respond? I try to gloss over it and change the subject quickly but I can't deny the fact they brought it up rather spoilt the mood.

Also, dates who blatantly ogle other people whilst your on the date (daresay there's plenty of male dates guilty of this too). One in particular became entranced with every guy over 6ft who entered the bar, including one who was obviously married and was carrying his toddler (I'm talking literally, eyes fixed on them for long periods whilst we're in the middle of a conversation). I wouldn't have minded if it was a hint she wanted the date to be over, but when I politely made my excuses she appeared genuinely shocked and tried to get me to stay!

[Woodlandbelle]

These are so funny. I can't remember any bad dates except one to pulled out his eyebrows. He went travelling and he stayed in touch abd he sent me some, 😂 he was actually a lovely person and I often think about him.

[Notanotherfreak]

One recent one, the guy asked me what was my favourite Pokemon . He was 49.

[TheChip]

@Notanotherfreak That makes me wonder how I appeared for a first date. I was waiting for him to arrive and I hate just standing there so I put pokemon go on while I waited. I spotted him pulling up so I was hurrying back down the street before he thought I was a no show. My first words were me saying "sorry I was just trying to catch a pokemon that was close by"

It was one of those moments where I just wanted the ground to swallow me.

[rawalpindithelabrador]

Loads when I was dating! Anyone who showed up and immediately suggested I pay. 'No, I don't think so. We each pay for ourselves or let's call this a day.' People who didn't look anything like their photo, I hate liars. Finding out they were some Britain First type. Anything that smacks of misogyny. Anyone who said they were 'old-fashioned' or 'old school'. Guys who showed up and they had a friend or more in tow and pulled 'The more the merrier!' 'Have a nice time then.' Any Jack the Lad types. Anyone who mentioned their ex. Braggarts. Walter Mitties.

[LawnFever]

Oh god so many

The guy who I walked straight past in the bar and didn’t recognise because his photo must’ve been 15 years and 5 stone ago

The guy who I went for a meal with and he ordered spaghetti bol and dribbled it all over his face & shirt

The guy who lied and said he was 6 foot when he was 5’ 6’, I’m not against a man being that height but why lie, it’s not like I wasn’t going to notice!

A really dull man who openly told me he had no real hobbies or interests whatsoever and then just kind of sat there awkwardly

The man I never met face to face because when we spoke on the phone he sounded like Mr Bean

[Happycat1212]

I just really didn’t like his hair, sounds silly now but just no

[fairydustandpixies]

I've had too many to recount but here's a few...

One guy who spent the whole date telling me how to dispose of a dead body and not be caught.

One guy who spent the date quizzing me about my house and children and told me that I sounded 'suitable', what was my address so he could move in after he packed up his stuff from his mum's (he was in his 40s).

Another guy who spent the whole time telling me how fabulous his ex wife was and how he missed her.

A bloke who ordered a lime and soda when it was his round and champagne when it was mine.

Funnily enough, after two marriages and divorces, more disastrous dates than I can mention, I'm now happily single!

[TheVamoosh]

A South African guy who asked me to stand up and spin around for him so he could get a better look at me. He then told me "I'd like to take you to the theatre. Can you dress to impress?" In his accent, it sounded like "Kin you drrriss to imprrriss?" I don't know what answer he was expecting. Maybe for me to feel swept off my feet, all eager and starry-eyed at the prospect of watching "Cats" with some guy I'd met in All Bar One.

[Seriously79]

First date 2 years after husband left was with a man I'd met online.

Firstly he was 20 mins late.

He ate with his mouth open.

He was a teacher, and told me that he'd previously had an affair with a student, but it was ok as she looked older than 16.

It was at this point I walked out!

[StarlightLady]

Grey underpants with a hole in.

[JemimaRacktool]

justkeeprollingalong Pre-covid date not first date. : /

[Marineboy67]

I did OLD for over two years and had some shockers. One wanted to meet in a Matalan car park, she'd brought her sister & aunty along with her. We sat down in a Harvester for a drink, all three of them firing questions at me. I said ' sorry I think I didn't lock the car my phones on the seat' I went out got in the car and done a runner

[HalfDutchGirl]

Met up with a guy from OLD at Costa, he sat down at the worst table in the place and told me the coffee he wanted!

He talked about himself constantly and how wonderful he was and when I finally got a word in he looked gobsmacked, held his arms out and said, "look at this I've got goosebumps when you talk, I haven't had that since my ex and I thought she was 'the one', you must be the next"

I left very quickly.

[Meruem]

I was talking to one guy in his 40s. Nice build, smartly dressed etc. (In his photo’s) Met in person and he was clearly 10yrs older, had lost loads of weight, had dirty stubble and was wearing an anorak and grubby trainers.

Another guy seemed ok for the first 10 minutes of our date but then launched into a lecture on how the world is flat! No need to say anymore on that one!

Met another guy in a pub that did food. When I went to the loo he ordered himself something to eat, didn’t ask whether I’d like anything. Then sat and ate it in front of me! The flip side to that was one guy who did ask, let me order and then decided he didn’t want anything! Which was just as awkward.

I’m in London and another guy asked if there was a way he could get to our meeting point without going through zone 1 as he didn’t want to pay the extra tube fare (£1.50!)

Met another guy in a bar and there was a sign up saying the card reader wasn’t working so I said I’d need to get some cash. He looks annoyed and says “ok I’ll get this drink and you go out and look for a cash machine”. I mean I was happy to take turns paying but he said it like I was going to try and rip him off or something, and that I’d planned it deliberately.

Then there was the one who when we sat down, rummaged in his bag to pull out my profile that he’d printed out and proceeded to question me on! It was like a job interview.

I am now single, not dating, and I have 2 cats

[rawalpindithelabrador]

@HalfDutchGirl

Met up with a guy from OLD at Costa, he sat down at the worst table in the place and told me the coffee he wanted!

He talked about himself constantly and how wonderful he was and when I finally got a word in he looked gobsmacked, held his arms out and said, "look at this I've got goosebumps when you talk, I haven't had that since my ex and I thought she was 'the one', you must be the next"

I left very quickly.

I'd have left when he told me what coffee he wanted. 'I'm not a waitress or a cash point. Bye.'

[B1rdflyinghigh]

The man who was so camp, I'm sure he was hiding a secret from himself!
The man who arrived with a plastic rose complete with plastic dew drops, who didn't look like his photo.
The gorgeous Greek polo player who talked non stop through dinner for 2 hours.
The man who announced he was going to marry me....we didn't.
The man who stated that he was going to kill his ex girlfriends cat...quickest date in history lasting 10 minutes!
The man who informed me that he had a very large, thick penis...then sent me a photo to prove it. He was average.
The man who said he was very naughty...but wouldn't do oral, anal, get tied up etc, etc.
The man who lunged at me in the car park....steady down soldier!

[crystalpaula]

Met up with a guy I'd been chatting to online. He seemed really nice and had loads in common but I had only seen one pic of him wearing a hat so couldn't see what he looked like properly. Eventually met up and he was wearing a tight brown leather jacket with skin tight jeans and one of those really big baseball caps. Kept saying words like "ace" " awesome" and " digging". He was 39 and got the impression he thought he was in his early 20s. He launched himself at me and started snogging me as soon as he saw me and I just wasn't attracted at all, when he was trying to be sexual he was giving me the creeps.
A few days later I found a bag full of chocolates and flowers on my doorstep that he had left there for mother's day. But then the next time we were due to meet up he said he would have to wait another week as he had no money to buy me a coffee and I used that as the excuse to end it.

[crystalpaula]

And should mention that under the hat he was completely bald.

[LawnFever]

I went on a date once and the guy had a spider hanging from his hair