Do you initiate sex with your partner ?

[Lauren551]

As the title says
I’m more looking for people in long term relationships
Do you initiate Sex with him ? And if you didn’t or don’t is he offended ?
I have to admit I don’t initiate it’s not that I don’t want to I just feel awkward initiating , I rarely turn him down when he instigates it , but he’s mentioned a few times over last few years that I don’t and also that I don’t ‘snog him’ anymore

@Gncq I meant to sleep in naturally. The lady said she only had to get in bed pantless. I've never slept in pants ever! Obviously everyone generally gets dressed up for it amount of stuff I've got literally! My oh will only do it if all dressed up hair make up suspenders etc.

Thanks for all the replies

Honestly I don’t know why I’m awkward about it because In my case I know he will never turn me down I think it’s more that I’m embarrassed I’m not seducing him correctly ?
I’ve dressed up in sexy underwear and he loves it but usually this is when it’s an occasion like valentines or birthdays
I’m so sorry to read people’s comments about getting knocked back I really feel for you and do y want my oh feeling the same which I’m guessing he does at times , I’m going to initiate tonight wish me luck xx

I think you're over thinking it op. Initiating it doesn't have to be some big seduction, you in frilly underwear doing a strip tease whilst he drinks his tea on the sofa. Just ask him if he fancied an early night and of he says he isn't tired, tell him good, kiss him, green good hand and go to bed

How does he initiate sex? Just do the same. I doubt he feels like he has to wear special underwear?

I had a long term relationship with a man who never once initiated sex. He would be ok once he got going but it was up to me to start things off. He said it was because he was shy. It made me rather annoyed - a bit of me felt rejected & unappreciated, I also felt he was lazy.
I stopped initiating & we stopped having sex.
I would want it to be 50/50 - I want to feel like a man desires me!

I rarely do sexy underwear etc these days, to be honest it’s mostly a cheeky text when we’re in the middle of something mundane or suggestion of an early night or a massage. No need for the pressure of a big production

Oh that’s sad.