What would you do... honestly

[GravyBoatt]

Husband just called me
a fucking cunt

History of emotional abuse.
My anxiety is crippling and I am
suffering severely from mental health issues.

Post edited by MNHQ

I think I would go somewhere away from him and plan how I would leave. Have you any children?

Honestly? Leave him.

Your mental health will never be good while you're being abused.

Do you have kids with him? If not, leave immediately. If you have kids, make an exit plan.

I'm not usually one to jump on the LTB train, but a history of emotional abuse and calling you a fucking cunt is not acceptable.

We have two children.
It has been okay for a while. Tonight . It's kicked off again .
My mental health is the reason for everything. All the issues apparently.
All of it.

Leave. Nobody should be calling you that, least of all your husband.

Are you getting any support?
Do you have anywhere to go? Does he?

You might find your mh improves without an abusive h.

He should be your rock OP. Not someone who makes your mental health worse

Can I please ask you to report your own post to MN to get this moved to the Relationships board.

I'm sorry you're struggling. You deserve love and support. Not abuse.

First thing - he's the cunt and you're not to blame for anything.
What's your situation? Can you leave him? Is there anywhere you and the children could go?

If you have somewhere to go with your children then go. I expect your MH will improve without this horrible man in your life too

Sorry - should have explained - the relationships boards is filled with women who have experienced and survived awful relationships. They will help you gently unpick this mess and make lots of suggestions.

You need support.

How old are the children?

DH would be out of the house the same day. It's very far from ok.

Hope you find a way forward- it won't always seem as dark as it does right now.

I would honestly be going anywhere away from someone who spoke to me like that.

It I'd no family I would phone Women's Aid. But I would not ever stay with someone who abused me.

I am heartbroken
We've been here before
Two children ages ten and six .
My children's school are being a wonderful support with my mental health issues but don't know anything else currently.
I can't stop crying.

cismyarse

Thank you 💕

Leave because you're unhappy

You can't get well while still being emotionally abused.

Something has to change.

Oh @GravyBoatt :(. I'm so sorry. Nobody should be spoken to like that, let alone by the one person who is meant to have your back.

Do you feel safe tonight? Is he likely to become physically abusive? If so, get hold of your dc and any important papers you can easily lay your hands on and leave. Go to family or friends. If you feel you can't do that tonight, keep your phone on you all the time, preprogramme 999 into it, and hit the button the minute you become scared.

Tomorrow, take stock of where this relationship is going. I don't think I could stay with anyone who showed such total disdain did he. Plan your escape. Above all - be careful and good luck,

I would make an urgent appointment with your gp to talk about the way you’ve been feeling. Everything will be easier if you’ve got better support for those in place.

He sounds horrible.

Speaking from experience, your mental health is exacerbated by all the issues, not the reason for them. Do not let him make you think otherwise!!

I think your most recent feelings are a sign you need to leave him, emotional abuse is as big a risk factor as physical abuse. I hope you have some support systems around you, there are charities that will be able to help too.

@GravyBoatt

We have two children. It has been okay for a while. Tonight . It's kicked off again . My mental health is the reason for everything. All the issues apparently. All of it.

It's more likely that his behaviour is the cause of the state of your mental health!

I cannot stop crying.
What a pathetic excuse for a human being

He's certainly a pathetic excuse for a human being. You're not.