Lying husband

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Really worried about my OHs lying. He tells white lies allll the time or he tells me things haven't happened when they have. There's been a recent fall out with his family and I'm beginning to wonder if it's because of his lying.

I have spoken to him about it before but he will swear blind he's not lying then once caught out he's always sorry but I can't help wonder if he's so comfortable telling little white lies what other kinds of lies might he be spouting.

We are supposed to be moving in together soon but it's really putting me off and don't know how to fix it

In what context are the lies? Do you get on enough with his family to find out?

Do not move in with him under any circumstances. This relationship should be at an end now. He is a pathological liar.

Do not try and fix him; you are patently not qualified to do so. This is his sole issue so do not make it yours too. Being a rescuer and or saviour in a relationship anyway never works out well.

Run like the wind OP. Get out now while you haven’t any ties to make things difficult.

He will never change and it will end up impacting on your mental well-being. You will never know truth from fiction and always be trying to make sense of yet another lie.

Better a thief than a liar. You know where you are with a thief........

Crikey this sounds very odd...I would hold off from moving in for now. How on earth can you share a life with someone that cant distinguish fact from fiction? Your mental health will go south very quickly.

I would hate this.

I know someone like this and they do it because they are scared of who they are. Lack of confidence.

BUT it means no one trusts them! It diminishes their relationships ... it’s pretty sad really.

Why compromise your life??

He believes his own lies now. Don’t put up with this.

Dear God, please don't move in with a proven historical liar!!! No good, ever, for any woman, has EVER come of making a life with someone like this.

Run like the wind. Beware of anyone who tells lies with ease no matter how seemingly insignificant.

You can't fix it, only he can and that's unlikely if he can't even admit there's a problem in the first place. I wouldn't be moving in, I'd be moving on, sorry OP.

My exh was quite a liar.. Was very draining.. Even when I threw him out he lied about why we split. No surprise there.
Op dc lie. Part of growing up..
Your bf hasn't grown up.. Life with a man child is fucking awful.
Put off the move. Ltb would be be even better.

Step away from the liar, there will be no happiness only confusion ahead.

An example was he was going through a rough patch and said he hadn't heard from one of his best friends while he going through this but turns out he actually had been but was making out he hadn't and of course it upset me to think his friend didn't care so I mentioned it to his friend but of course he'd been in touch the whole time.

If he's telling a story where money is mentioned for an example, the amount of money increases each time the story is told or if he's been ill and not slept well, the number of hours sleep deceases every time the story is told.

I guess they aren't massive lies but I now don't have anythink to do with the family due to the fall out but now think I've maybe fallen out with the wrong people and I look like a bit of an idiot

Sounds to me from your last post OP that the lying in context is to appear as a victim. I dare say so he can garner sympathy from others - because sympathetic people are more giving (at least in his eyes).

Nope nope nope. Only men I know who lie like this have turned out to be narcissists and similar. He sounds like he lies to make himself look the victim too (possible 'vulnerable narcissist').

That last lie about his friend was horrible. He is supposed to be his friend and look what he did to him. You can trust that moving forwards, he will tell other people lie about you too.

He isnt a nice person. Dont move in with him.

And in 5 years time when you're at home with the kids and you find "final warning" bills he swears he's paid, or he's lost another job for bizarre reasons that definitely aren't "his fault" you'll look back at this thread and wonder why you didn't run.

Run, now.

My exh lied massively in the end.
I ended our marriage..
He once told me he had told his db something that affected me massively and I needed support.
He hadn't and I assumed he hadn't wanted me to be the focus of our visit to db..
He wanted everyone's attention on him. Proven time and time again. Birthdays especially had to include him... He was in his 30 's ffs!!

Every lie he tells will be of benefit to him, he is cold, calculating and pre meditated.
Make no mistake he is a wolf in sheeps clothing.

My ex constantly lied to me and i always found out the truth! I have ended my relationship as it messed my head up! I would run you will never know where you stand with a liar x

You're married but don't live together? Or are you not actually married?

Industrial scale lying that you are experiencing seems a reason not to continue with the relationship. It's not childish exaggeration but something worse.

End it now out of self-respect.

Hard to fancy and trust someone you don’t respect... Ask yourself why you would accept this - and if he would accept it from you?

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Dear God, please don't move in with a proven historical liar!!! No good, ever, for any woman, has EVER come of making a life with someone like this.

Can't put it better than that really.

It would be very foolish to build a life with a liar.

My ex lied about all sorts when we first met.. gave him benefit of doubt - then discovered he was a sociopathic narcissist who’d been cheating on me and lying about money etc. I ended it obviously but wish I’d binned him at the beginning and not wasted 3 years on the loser.