Why does he want me to hand feed him!

[IronWomanOrSuperWoman]

Hi I just wanted some advice really.I have many friends,male and female.There is one male friend in particular that always wants me to put in his mouth when I ask him to taste something or offer him some food!I didn't think anything of it at first, but find it strange because I don't like anyone putting food in my mouth with their hands.
None of my other friends do this. Should I just put the food down near him next time?I do that anyway but he opens his mouth like he wants me to feed him.I don't want to look rude so what shall I do?
Thankyou for reading.

Throw random objects at his open mouth?
Dead spiders, ping pong balls etc.

Put up a wee sign to warn of choking hazards and you should be grand.

How is this an issue under lockdown or are you in New Zealand's sunlit uplands or something?

He's behaving like a giant toddler! Putting food in someone's mouth is strangely intimate act. I would ignore the open mouth and plonk a bit for him to taste on his own plate.

Considering we’re on lockdown and have been on and off throughout the whole of last year, do you feed friends that often? If you don’t want to do something, don’t do it. Tell him to come and get some himself or just don’t feed people tiny tasters?! Surely you either feed them a plate full or not at all?

You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to

But you don’t get to call people weird just because they are different than you over something that innocuous.

Ew gross. Handfeeding is one of those things that can be a bit sexy if you both fancy each other and are into it, but outside of that it's just creepy. Bet he isn't getting his burly mate Gav to feed him like little baby bird.

If you don't want to do it, say no and put it on a plate and never speak to the creepy guy again.

😂😂😂

It probably turns him on. Some people find it quite erotic.

Tell him to fuck off

Tom Jones.

The eating scene.

How often does that come up?

It's weird. Just say "feed yourself you lazy get"

Well, if you say 'oh, taste this' with a spoon out then I'd assume you were letting me try that bite and were going to put the spoon to my mouth. Like you would when tasting food that's cooking.

If it's a bowl or something that is weird.

You do get to call him weird when he's standing there with his mouth open like a goldfish.
I'd stop offering him food in the first place.

Does anyone else regularly ask a male friend to taste things? I've never done that in my life to anyone.
OP - let people help themselves. Stop offering.
Unless you are Nigella, in which case this makes a little sense. Even Nigella can't have been feeding people by hand recently though. 🤔

Yeah, that's a sex thing. I'd say "No darling, mummy isn't here, so pick up the spoon like a big boy... Well done!"

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation

Yeah, that's a sex thing. I'd say "No darling, mummy isn't here, so pick up the spoon like a big boy... Well done!"

Job done

It's something I find rather intimate so never hand feed friends, and it's not really my thing in romantic relationships either...chucking Maltesers doesn't count does it? 😁

I bet he never asks his male mates to do this.

Maybe he is a baby bird thinks you are his mummy.

Well stop offering him food or just sit it on the side of the plate. You’re not going to be arrested for not doing it by the food police.

@XazieRose

You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to

But you don’t get to call people weird just because they are different than you over something that innocuous.

Erm, he's a grown man wanting feeding - it's definitely weird

WTF? How has this even got to the point where it's become a problem? How often are you offering him food?
Just stop offering it

Why do you keep telling people to taste things? That's as weird as wanting feeding!

Eugh, totally weird, if I am cooking and I taste the food, I hand Ds a clean spoon so he can taste it himself. (Dh will eat anything so is unreliable in the food tasting department, hence Ds.)

If, precovid, I am out having dinner with friends and we do sample from each other's plates they gesture with their fork and say try this, they don't put it on a fork for me.

I cannot remember the last time I put food in someone's mouth. It must be one of my children who are both now teens.

It's cringy and too intimate for friends. Tell his friends he can't feed himself 😂

if he does it again say "paw" or feed him then pat on the head and say good boy