Ok, what should I do next? If anything...

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Close male friend who I'm in a social bubble with - every one else has bubbles with family members and we're both in a similar position family wise.

We've spent a lot of time together over this lockdown. We did the last one but, as it was summer, it was easier to meet up with others in the park too but this time, we are only seeing each other. So I know what I'm about to say next could be circumstantial.

Over the past 5 or 6 weeks, we've become closer. It's felt really natural. Just more physical and emotional closeness, a bit of flirting but not 'sexual' flirting.

I've been staying overnight at his in the spare room. We go up to bed at night hug and kiss goodnight on the landing and go our separate ways.

Last weekend it all looked the same as normal. We had dinner, chatted and laughed as usual and sat on the sofa watching a film. As often happens, he put his hand on my knee when we watched the film and talked afterwards. I was sitting with my feet up on the sofa and he was sitting on them to keep them warm.

Went up to bed as normal. Hugged and kissed as normal but neither of us released the hug. He kissed me again. I didn't sleep in the spare room.

The following day was fine. Nothing was said. He asked if I were ok a few times and I was. We had a lovely day again, no awkwardness. A lot closer though. He turned to me and randomly kissed me during the day. We built a snowman. He asked me to stay another night due to the snow - said he wasnt comfortable with me driving home. And I wfh from his house on Monday.

It was 'different' in a positive way. Lots of 'together' moments but no further sex or suggestion of it (I went to bed an hour before him because I had work) but a lot closer emotionally, affection, flirty teasing, looks etc...

Now. I've had fwbs before. I have no issue with one off sex with a friend but i wouldn't want fwb with him.

I'm not really sure what to do now!

I'm not worried about it. I just don't want the friendship to be harmed by it. I have developed feelings for him but I've kept them under wraps and I'm very good at comparmentalising!

I've considered saying something next time i see him and I've considered just not saying anything and waiting to see if he said or does anything.

What do you think i should do?

I've messaged and suggested meeting up this weekend for a walk and dinner at mine.

I did wonder if it might be too soon but seeing someone once a week when they're not seeing anyone else or doing anything else is actually ok. I think.

Ha, it's ok, he's just replied and said he's up for it.

He won't be able to stay over because my daughter will be here. But she won't be around all night. We can talk at least.

Why was the sex not great (and do you mean it was actually bad?) and how do you know that was the case from his side too? unless neither of you came

This is a wonderful update! Well done for messaging, it's definitely not too soon. Now try to enjoy the anticipation and don't over think it!

Why was the sex not great

We went to bed at 4am so we were both really tired - struggling to keep eyes open tired.
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We'd been drinking. Neither of us were drunk but I'd had a bottle of wine over about 8 hours and was just dehydrated and my senses were dulled somewhat.

It would have been better if it had happened a few hours and half a bottle of wine earlier!

I rarely have sex after I've been drinking, it rarely works for me and if it does it takes forever. He came but I didn't. I enjoyed it but I knew I wouldn't. And it was too late to go for hours. So I'm not bothered about that.

Ah, so nothing to do with chemistry then, in which case I would be going for it sober on Saturday pre him going home, maybe even post/walk, pre/dinner. Hope it works out for you OP

How did it go?!