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Have you ever had a ex come back?

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habbyclabby · 25/01/2021 16:37

An ex dumped me for someone else 3 years ago.
He messaged me a week ago on messenger.
"I'm sorry for how I treated you,I want to build some bridges with people,I hope your ok,would like the chance to talk to you"
I have zero feelings for him now.
At the time I was heartbroken.
Has anyone else had a EX just pop up like this?

OP posts:
piddocktrumperiness · 27/01/2021 18:01

do men delete numbers of the women they dated? or do they keep them on their phone?

rumred · 27/01/2021 20:55

It's not just men. I've had 2 women exes turn up at the door. I think my aghast face probably did the trick. A few online too. I ignore or am polite. Next time I may well ask mn for pithy put downs

Ntwa · 27/01/2021 21:20

@piddocktrumperiness one I ended up changing my number..a few weeks down the line I had a message.. I was baffled.. I then realised my works number (am self employed) was on the Internet for all to see) and back he was..

2nd and 3rd ones must have held onto it, which is kinda weird!!

Calmingvibrations · 27/01/2021 21:20

Happened to a friend - she was treated really badly, but he reappeared some time later and they are now very happy and very solid. It literally was a 180 degree turn. Don’t think it happens often though.

TheVanguardSix · 27/01/2021 21:23

He wants to build bridges with people, he says. Sounds like AA/12 steps more than wanting to rekindle a relationship. You’re on his apology list.

bibbidybobbidyboo · 27/01/2021 22:05

It's in the process of happening with me OP. Six year relationship (met at uni), he broke up with my out of the blue because he was in a bad place, I was devastated & spent the next 2 years trying to get over him. He sent me a couple of messages during that time, asked to see me once and I said no because I was still so hurt and sad. Then in October just gone I finally agreed to see him thinking maybe it would give me closure, and it turns out he has worked on himself (gone to therapy etc) and wants to give us another go.

I am taking it veeeeeery slowly... (and reading both the positive and negative stories on this thread with a lot of interest!)

That said, it sounds like for you breaking up was the right thing and you're not keen on him anymore so def just ignore.

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