Have you ever had a ex come back?

[habbyclabby]

An ex dumped me for someone else 3 years ago.
He messaged me a week ago on messenger.
"I'm sorry for how I treated you,I want to build some bridges with people,I hope your ok,would like the chance to talk to you"
I have zero feelings for him now.
At the time I was heartbroken.
Has anyone else had a EX just pop up like this?

Sounds like a right twat.

I would reply and say:

"Thanks for the apology. You did treat me very badly and ended our relationship in the most cowardly way. However, this did make get over you very quickly and i would not want to resume contact with someone who treats people in such an awful way."

Then block immediately.

Yep, all of them.
2 wanted to get back together
1 wanted an affair because his wife had just had a baby and their relationship 'wasn't the same' and that made him 'realise I should be with you'
The rest I don't know what they wanted as their messages just said they wanted to catch up

I didn't respond to any of them.

Yes years ago and despite my saying I was not interested repeatedly he said I was "keeping him dangling on a string"! Yes recently. He has reached out and I'm not convinced ...

I'd message him.

It's so nice to hear from you. No need to apologise. I've met someone new and I am really happy. If we hadn't split I wouldn't have met him, so don't feel bad.
Have a great lifeX

I had one. He even contacted me several times after I got married, seriously believing I would be happy to cheat on my husband. Fucking idiot. Last time I heard anything about him, he was on his 4th divorce.

No I haven't but I did come back and was welcomed with open arms. I never left again.

You reap what you sew.

Block him.
You're over him and you can never trust him.

Yes. He split up with me because he wasn’t in a very good place. Absolutely broke my heart. But he came back, begged me for a second chance and proved that he had done loads to get his life together. We’re getting married next year

@habbyclabby

He treated me so horribly as well. Cut me off like I was nothing then has the audacity to message me.

He treated you horribly. If you must, accept his apology, but I wouldn't reply to any further messages.

Yup, just before I was about to finish university and jet off to work in asia. He popped up after 2 years and said he wanted me back. I said no. It killed me as I had broken up with him because he didnt love me but wouldnt dump me. Turned out, he had knocked up his GF and was freaking out. He said he didnt love her. They are married with 2 kids now.

I met my now DH 3 days later, in Bangkok.

Yes!
My boyfriend of nearly 8 years left me for another woman....without actually telling me! We had a small petty argument over the phone while he was working away (a building trade job) and I didn't see or hear from him again for years. A girlfriend of one of his friends broke it to me that he was with someone else and they very quickly moved in together and had a baby. I was truly heartbroken and I still find trusting people quite hard even now over a decade later. Anyway a few years ago the cheeky sod actually had the nerve to message me on Facebook, just what I had been waiting for. But when it actually came to it I realised I had no time to listen to his generic apology- it almost felt like he was trying to make me feel sorry for him. I took great pleasure in ignoring him , and I hope you do too. You are worth more Xx

"I'm fine thanks, I've moved on. No need to get in touch again."

Then block.

Yes - I had an ex who shamed me for having been abused by a pedophile when I was younger. I had confided in him. He basically said he couldn’t respect me and that it takes two, etc. I was only young, late teens. He found me on Facebook about 10 years later and messaged me to apologise. I wish he hadn’t as it just stirred up memories and I remember thinking it was just him he was trying to make feel better. Not me. He’s had kids now and I think probably become more alert to safeguarding.

I'm not even going to reply.
I have just actually broken up with someone
I wish it was that ex messaging me not him.
2 years ago if he had messaged me I would have been over the moon.
Now it's nothing

@TheGoldenCircle

I'd message him.

It's so nice to hear from you. No need to apologise. I've met someone new and I am really happy. If we hadn't split I wouldn't have met him, so don't feel bad.
Have a great lifeX

Love this

The perfect reaction. Zero.

I hope non of you take them back.

I think it is a case of the man with the Golden Cock (learnt this on here yesterday and loving it) thinks he can do better so leaves. He then finds that women are not falling all over him and so goes back to his ex. He stay s for a bit and then his Golden Cock starts telling him his is so great and there are lots of women out there just waiting for him.

And repeat.....

Yes. 6 months later. We got married and are now divorced as He had an affair. In hindsight I think he finished with me in the first place because he had met someone else. That didn’t work out so he came back. I didn’t ask enough questions at the time. I was gullible and wanted babies.

Glad to hear that you're not even texting him back.
Especially if he treat you badly.

In my experience they only come back when they are lonely, and wanting a bit.

Yep was with my ex ten years ago we were together for 2 years and we split we where young and immature and it was a long distance relationship so we called it quits. I decided to msg him out of the blue in September 2019 just to see how he was I was just curious and not expecting anything he msg straight away and flash forward to now he’s moved in got engaged and expecting our first child together in June this year

Yes, I’ve had a couple of exs do that.

One sent a jolly “hey, how are you?” email, four years after we’d last spoken. I really don’t think he was after sex as he was living on another continent by then.

Another sent an email maybe two years after we’d split up, asking me out to dinner. I think he probably was after sex, to be fair. He didn’t get any.

Glad to read that you're not going to message him OP. Any response, even if you think you're being sassy, smart, cold, etc. will just feed his ego.

Plonque Mon 25-Jan-21 17:18:55
Definitely ignore. Block, even. Please don't reply

Best Advice!