I had a weekend from hell, sibling abuse

[BlueFlyAway]

Does sibling rivalry and abuse ever stop?

I'm on the receiving end of a bitter, hateful sister. She implemented estrangement some years ago after a row. I respected the estrangement. I was upset but I moved on with my life and I was happy without. I think the estrangement she implemented was a method of control from her. All these years later she's not happy. She keeps sending me messages. She can't get to me on the phone anymore, so she tries to get to me through other people or fake profiles. It's over and over and over again. Reading between all the insults, mocking and threats, she wants me to fix our broken relationship. I'm not interested in having a sister/sister relationship. She's done so much trying to get my attention. She mocked breast assymmetry that I have and its quite notable and went as far as sending me pictures of her boobs many times along with dirty messages:
'hey want to see what real tits look like'
'want to suck on these'
'all real, no chicken fillets'.

She's spent years trying to get my attention with dirty messages and insults.

I'm just after having another bad weekend from her. It's definitely a hamlet type of situation. She's a not a happy person and she wants a pound of flesh out of me thinking it might make her happy.

I went to the police before but they weren't interested in helping me and they said it's a civil matter. I went to 2 different solicitors too but they weren't interested in taking on my case. They made excuses not to help me. One solicitor tried to behave like a counsellor. The other solicitor bounced me back the other way and said it is a matter for the police.

I'm caught so much in another persons black soul.

I'm not interested in mediation because she's not able to meet another person have way and I tried on a casual basis before but she flung it back at me into my face and that was the end of it.

She doesn't get on with others in the family and so there's no one to talk to her.

We went to the doctor too for her mental health but that was also an impossible route because although she was showing signs of mental distress sending naked pictures to her sibling she wasn't hurting herself or others and because of that they didn't commit her to a psychiatric ward/hospital.

She behaves in a similar manner to others in the family too but its my turn for a new fresh round of hatred.

Iminaglass

There was no abuse in the family. There was no incest in the family. A lot of her messages were calling out on me having an incestial relationship with my brothers and me sucking their cocks. That never occurred. There was no abuse in the family. It was her filthy mind that she wasn't able to control that she wanted to dish out onto me.

This women is incredibly damaged. Something terrible has happened to her - I wouldn’t be surprised if she was sexually abused at some point as her words are all sexually linked. Consider that she may have even if you wasn’t.

Get an injunction on her though she is harassing you and come off SM

@BlueFlyAway

Iminaglass

There was no abuse in the family. There was no incest in the family. A lot of her messages were calling out on me having an incestial relationship with my brothers and me sucking their cocks. That never occurred. There was no abuse in the family. It was her filthy mind that she wasn't able to control that she wanted to dish out onto me.

Sorry OP but you just don't know that for sure. There a reason for your sisters behaviour. People don't do things like that for no reason at all. She is obviously quite unwell, and may have experienced some sort of trauma that has triggered this behaviour. Has anyone ever actually tried to help her rather that just telling her she is disgusting, a liar and has a filthy mind?

Her messages arent all sexual in nature. There's insults and a lot of them, there's threats, there's other shit like being upset at old rows, there's other stuff...

Just deeply unhappy

She was saying in your messages something like

'you are sucking your brothers cocks'.

She made that accusation to me about incest with my brothers. I know that is not true. I know I am not sucking my brothers cocks.

If she experienced abuse herself, she needs to sort that out herself. She never once claimed that she herself was abused. Her messages has claimed that I am into incest.

She's estranged herself from the family for some sort of control. She wanted us to be upset. She wanted us to run after her and that never happened. As for the accusations of incest, she was hoping for dirt to stick to the family and leak out from the family because she's out from the family. That's all she's doing. She's hoping for dirt to stick because she's poison. That's all it is.

She was texting me a lot of bad messages a few years ago and it was heavy and over and over and over and I took pity on her one night and I tried to work with her and I replied to her messages trying to fix things but she didn't like it. Its a control thing from her. She hates me, she doesn't want to me my friend, but she won't let me go.

Our mother also tried the olive branch by writing her a letter but all that achieved was open up a space for her to respond with abuse into our mother's phone.

Delete Facebook! It’s not a necessity you know. I’m sorry but I think you’re partly to blame here and you know what you need to do and you’re still allowing the drama. The solicitor is going to tell you to deactivate all social media. You need to stop. Going to a solicitor over this is feeding the drama. Stop. Change all your numbers and email addresses and delete social media. That’s the end of it. I don’t understand this hysteria. She’s unpleasant so stop allowing her to have access to you. A friend just asked me to find details of one of her groups on her Facebook page. I can’t because she’s got everything locked. I can’t see anything because all of her privacy settings are so high.

Try again reporting to the police, youre sisters, so therefore is a domestic and you must be seen and is clearly an offence of stalking/harassment. Dont give up

I don't get it. The last time we saw each other in person was a little bit over 4 years ago. It was a family funeral and at the time we both were able to park our issues beind us and we got on well. Within a matter of weeks she was blowing up my phone.

I don't understand it. We haven't been physically in each others lifes. She's like a stranger to me. Yet, she's so wrapped up in me.

@BlueFlyAway

I don't get it. The last time we saw each other in person was a little bit over 4 years ago. It was a family funeral and at the time we both were able to park our issues beind us and we got on well. Within a matter of weeks she was blowing up my phone.

I don't understand it. We haven't been physically in each others lifes. She's like a stranger to me. Yet, she's so wrapped up in me.

You don’t have to get it.

There is nothing to get.

She is unhinged and mentally unstable. She may well have any one of the Cluster B personality disorders. Does she have a MH diagnosis?

Such people get fixated and obsessed with another person, often from their past because they are not making any new social contacts in life. It sounds like she is “splitting” (look that up) and you unfortunately are her “target of blame”.

It has nothing to do with you. But you do have to take steps to cut her and any mention of her out of your life otherwise you will internalise her chaos and toxicity and you will suffer your own MH issues. I am the target of blame for my mentally unwell sister and have experienced PTSD from her antics. She is totally blocked and no one can speak about her to me. It’s been quiet for a year now. But my next step is the police as her last missive was illegal.