What are your 'trivial' reasons for not dating someone?

[Purplepinks]

I dont mean big, red flags but things that you think other people would overlook. This is prompted by ongoing discussions I have with a friend. We are both single but she wants to be in a relationship and I'm not that bothered. Some of the reasons I've stopped / not started dating guys include they smoked (I know this is non-negotiable for some), said they regularly grew their short goaty into a big, bushy beard, didn't seemed to have done their dishes for about a week, moaned about work a lot, phoned their mum for the most trivial reasons. My friend thinks I should be more laid back and have given all of these guys more of a chance. So I just wondered what seemingly minor things have put others off dating someone.

Smoking and too much complaining aren’t trivial for me. Especially the complaining. I dated someone who felt disproportionately aggrieved by every minor infraction or issue. It was so tiring and made me resent him so much that it overtook his good qualities.

Severely receding hairline (man in early 20s)
Vegetarian - tried to make it work but when we went on holiday somewhere renowned for steak, and I had to eat pizza as it was the only veggie restaurant, i realised life was too short to miss out on the foods i like
Had no male friends at all
Was completely silent during sex, even after asking him to make SOME sound

Frequent posting of inane crap on SM.

Entertains everyone and anyone for own amusement.

A fixed mindset - little niggly things which contribute overall to a deficit in character and point to an inability or unwillingness to move forward in life.

Discrepancies between IQ and EQ.

Oh yes tattoos. Urgh. I understand getting small tattoos that have a personal meaning to someone but I've never understood people who literally "decorate" their body with ink and ruin their natural skin.

Don't mind a couple of small/discreet ones but absolutely hate tattoo sleeves on arms or big tattoos on the chest, or big or extensive tattoos anywhere. I've seen men who would otherwise be really attractive spoil their looks with tattoos. I guess they must really love them because they must know it puts a fair number of women off.

Can't cook/ won't cook
Neggers
Almost neggers (tactless/ thoughtless and oblivious to the same)
More than a passing interest in football or another sport
Has a mysogynistic/ player/arsehole best friend and thinks the sun shines out if their arse
Lives in filth and/ or doesn't wash daily/ thinks it doesn't matter as they spray lots of Lynx around
Makes comments along the lines of "women always ..."
Eyes up and comments on other women in person and on TV
Goads for a reaction in the name of banter

I absolutely couldn’t be in a relationship with a fussy / picky eater. Or someone who constantly obsessed about their weight & calorie intake. Or a vegan.

Food is one of life’s greatest sensual pleasures. Anything from a baguette hot from the oven spread with the finest butter to a Michelin-starred tasting menu can be a sublime experience. If you can’t share those pleasures with me, I can’t share my life with you.

Laddish types you know football down the pub every weekend type

Long fingernails like even slightly long

Small feet

Doesn’t drive

Jeans/trousers that are too short. Yes I know I'm a terrible person.

Lives more than 20 miles away
Can't drive
Ginger hair
Bald
Grey
Under 6ft
More than 4 years older than me
Younger than 8 years than me
Too obsessed with social media
Doesn't want marriage for a long time
Not financially secure.
Too muscular
skinny
Stingy with money

Any text language or abbreviations at all. No 2, no U, no cum, no m8, no 4t, no “dafuck” nor anything of that ilk. Write the full words you mean to say, in order to communicate with me. We are no longer texting with character limits like in the 90s/early 00’s

Ate bbq chicken wings (looked like bloodthirsty monster)
Looked surprisingly like ex-husband's brother
Unexpectedly keen on am-dram
Smelled of biscuits
Very slightly lazy eye
Wrote and tried to make me read his own constitution for the UK
Called me 'princess'
Shared a very bad poem as if it was a good poem

Anyone with genital warts
Clingy
Showing affection whilst his mates are there to show what hes pulled yuk

Not having the right dick.

Not getting up early.

Not taking the rubbish out.

Being in any way unhygienic.

Being a poor driver.

Not liking to go to bed at 8.30 nicely with me.

Any of the above would lose him the job.

[quote dilly123]@keylimegreen

Any kind of degree soup or otherwise 🤣

As it's painfully obvious I don't have one!

It appears from this funny, enlightening post that I'd take a lot of people's cast off so where the fuck is my bald, tattoo'd, chunky, uneducated, trainer wearing bit of rough?!! 😜🤣[/quote]
A man who can make soup is good enough in my books, much more useful than a degree

Unintelligent - cannot discuss or debate current affairs
Smoker - huge no
Drugs - no
Bad dress sense / style I don’t like
Bad teeth
Dead end job / no ambition
Moaning / complaining constantly about trivial things
Shoes with no socks - makes my toes curl
“Pretty boy” hairstyle
Super skinny jeans
Doesn’t drive
Bad manners
Too loud / attention seeking
Plays video games

Good job I’m married because I realise I’m rather picky 😂

Smoked weed and life seemed focused around it
Shorter than me
Seemed like an old fart before his time
Dressing too casually
Life revolved around football.

All different men 🤣

Only ate nuggets, chips, crisps, cake and general junk, no veg or fruit ever. Repulses me actually. There is so much amazing food out there and he only eat this crap.

Repeatedly sending me photos of their dinner.

Bad shoes

Bald (sorry) or beard - clearly I have an optimum hair level!

Small eyes - mum always said small eyes were untrustworthy and I can’t move past it

Broad Barnsley accent. Can handle most but that’s an instant no.

Long nails

Soft/passive nature or too cocky

No ambition or drive for life

No ambition to travel beyond a costa del sol all inclusive.

I could go on. But then I am single so...

Oh and thin hard lips, like kissing a damp pipe

Too short
Try’s to make me jealous (comments about other women finding him amazing )
Mummies boy
Social media addict
Show off
Doesn’t read
Tiny feet
Very slim thighs
asking for nudes
Inciting sexual convo too early
Leather jackets
Really dirty trainers

a funny coloured penis
small hands
small willy - just fuck off
cross dressers
bad breath
smelly feet
holes in jeans
shoes with no socks
skinny jeans
muscles

No from me...

Overweight
Miserable
Fussy eater
Not positive
Boring
Bad with money
Stingy

smelled of biscuits
🤣🤣🤣
That's just too funny

Most men

They just don't seem to bring enough to the table to bother with these days.

@dilly123

Glasses wearer.. (ok for reading but not full time) Shorter than 5 foot 9 Hair that's collar length or longer Skinny Cat owner No banter Batchelor degree Lives in shared house Effeminate No tattoos It can be little things that put me off even down to how someone walks!! Guess that's why I've been single for 9 years!! 🤣🤣

You’re never going to find anyone!😂