Lingerie...

[rattanraiser]

Is it strange that my boyfriend has no interest in it. Says he prefers the naked body. I've never met a man who doesn't enjoy it . Is that odd or am
I just totally out
Of the loop ... out of a 20 year relationship two years ago . First boyfriend since separation .

Hmm possibly it is a bit strange. I've certainly never known a man that wasn't somewhat obsessed with it.

But I wouldn't suggest that my ex's are representative of the average. I really wouldn't worry about it OP, we're all different.

I don't find it strange.

I think it depends on tastes, and probably age (of the viewer) too.

I’ve never got very excited about something at the Ann Summers end of the market because it’s not attractive IMO and I think it detracts rather than adds anything. I prefer something that hints at what’s underneath.

Taking the sexual equivalent of a neon yellow highlighter, post-it notes (and a sharpie for good measure) and circling all the “text” just doesn’t float my boat. I’d much rather see a partner in the nude than see her wearing that.

Humans like different things, newsflash!

Seriously, some men like the idea of unwrapping you like a birthday present. Others find the naked unadorned body more attractive - I've heard one man say "If I wanted something trussed up with string, I'd buy a turkey!" :D

@rattanraiser nope I've encountered many who not interested, just like the naked body.

Do you ask him to wear it?...

How many women ask their male partner to wear anything, my ex dress up once or twice but I preferred him naked

@rattanraiser

Is it strange that my boyfriend has no interest in it. Says he prefers the naked body. I've never met a man who doesn't enjoy it . Is that odd or am I just totally out Of the loop ... out of a 20 year relationship two years ago . First boyfriend since separation .

It’s strange that you presume to know the preference of every man, especially when you say you’ve been with 1 person for 20 years! I’d try being more open minded, it’s more fun to explore what you both like together and I over this than to presume.

As a side note, the weirdest testing as ex had was nude tights with no knickers underneath. I wondered if he’s had fantasies about either mannequins or barbies?!!!! It didn’t last long....

Can’t say iv ever had a partner seem bothered in that they’ve never “requested” it or bought me it . I sometimes wear “nice” underwear when I’ve known I’d be getting sex 😆 and they have maybe commented it looks hot But that’s about it . Prefer me naked I think

Do you think all men everywhere like the same thing?

My partner isn't remotely interested in me wearing lingerie

No I just am
Out of the loop for so long. Pre conceived idea I guess .

My Dh will say I don't care about the wrapping paper, only what is inside. We have been married over 20 years. He likes me naked, not dressed up. Thank god.

I have also never asked him to dress up for me either. Just love his body.

I did have one boyfriend who had no interest in lingerie. His thoughts were that basically it comes straight off to get to the good stuff.
Every other partner have loved it.

DH loves nice lingerie, but he's not obsessed by it. I don't own anything "out of the box", just nice matching sets which I throw away when they're past their best.

DP could not care less about lingerie. He's all about what's underneath

He looks, appreciates for 5 seconds, then it's off.

50:50

My ex wasn’t bothered by it at all.

I don't think it is odd as everyone is different but have to admit all my exes and DH do love it. However, not all the time.

DH likes me wearing normally nice (but comfortable for me) lingerie and is ok with me spending more for it. If a special occasion going out or a date night I might go for the more risqué lingerie specifically more for the bedroom...and he loves it when I do wear it.

I just see it as keeping things fresh by having variety and spicing things up. Equally whilst he loves it, he likes taking it off me although he does enjoy if wearing stockings to keep them on etc...

Do what you like and he is ok with

My DP isn’t bothered about lingerie. He likes me in pink t-shirts particularly, thinks I’m gorgeous in anything and everything........ he also hates anything surgically enhanced, injected etc. Not a fan of make up....... he’s like my perfect man! 🤣

I had a 'glamorous' photo shoot thing once, just to try it and see how I could look all dolled up and in lingerie. The photo is up on our bedroom wall and I don't think dh has given it a second glance since its been there, and hasn't touched me in years! So, it clearly doesn't do anything for him. On the other hand, my job involves sometimes wearing a hard hat and hi-vis, which was something that someone from the past really liked. Give that a try OP!

My husband doesn't which is annoying because I love nice underwear.

My DP isn’t too fussed about it but I wear it anyway because it makes me feel nice and a lot more self confident which equates to a better time in the bedroom.

Everyone likes different things though, my ex was really into it.

I think this sounds quite refreshing! Nice that you don't have to go too extra efforts that men never bother with. It's wonderful he just loves the natural you

I think it’s nice. It gets on my nerves when dh asks me to “dress up” - I feel like I should be enough as I am, just me.

Not weird at all, in fact quite refreshing. I’m a guy and I love lingerie but maybe spend your money on other bedroom items instead of something he isn’t into.

My DP isn’t bothered. I mean, he doesn’t actively dislike it and would probably appreciate the effort but his favourite is just nakedness Maybe a sneaky pic in lingerie beforehand, but in person the nakedness.
I definitely wouldn’t see it as odd for a man to not be bothered about it.