Someone I was seeing ( but not anymore) thanked me for blocking them on WhatsApp...

[Redfox]

Was seeing someone on and off last year anyway after much toing and froing, it came to an end and I did no contact since 2 November 2020.

He did send texts and Whatsapps that I ignored - they were usually every few weeks, and were pleasant, saying that he missed me etc. I did not respond to any of his messages.

I did not block him as I have not blocked anyone and I suppose I see it as a fairy aggressive act. However I accidentally opened one of his Whatsapp messages yesterday, and he saw that I opened it and sent another greetings and I did block him.

So then he texted me and said “thanks me for blocking me and wished me well and he would not bother me again’

I know I am giving this too much head space but this has really annoyed me, like i am doing him a favour... like he could not control himself. He could have blocked me.

I suppose deep down for some weird reason that I can not work out, I wanted him to miss me. I did fall for him but he was a fairly toxic jealous person and hurt me. So yes I am aware that maybe its about control on my part . Anyone explain the psychology behind his thanks?

Do you think he was being passive-aggressive?

To get a reaction a message some form of contact to even be a thought in your head thats why he did it

I'd take it as sarcasm tbh he sounds like a bit of a knob. Block him on all platforms and carry on

Having the last word?

Or, wanting it to end on a good note maybe- either for genuine reasons to express no hard feelings, or if he is aware of his toxic side, to avoid you telling mutual acquaintances that you had to block him as he wouldn't stop texting. At least now he has acknowledged that and said he won't do it anymore therefore limited any damage to his reputation.

He’s a passive aggressive weirdo. Don’t give it any more thought than that.

How is it any more ‘aggressive’ to block someone on WhatsApp rather than just ignore their messages? That doesn’t make any sense and if just sets you up for situations like this.

I'd read it as he's glad you've drawn a definitive line under the relationship while he may have been harbouring some hope it would

Oops too soon! Meant to add he may have hoped it would rekindle and now he can move on.

I’d take it as sarcasm, tbh

You've damaged his pride so he's lashing out? This is how teenagers behave. Well swerved.

He’s a freak. Forget about it

He is looking for an reaction and he got it..

He is trying to come across as reasonable while also being also passive aggressive

He is hoping that sending pleasant texts to you that he still has a chance with you....

Who knows what he means, was he sarcastic? But YOU are spending time thinking about it, and if though you say you have had NC, you are still thinking about him and wondering...

Just saying...

Well - it seems you are as controlling as you make him out to be.

He was being sarcastic. .

You could always text and ask him... or just ignore

He could be trying to end on a friendly note.. now that you have blocked him
Apparently lots of people are contacting / texting their ex partners in lockdown.. too much time to think

I read it as sarcasm actually...

Just wanted the last word.

Move on

Power and control. He wanted a response.

He wanted you to know that he saw you opened the WA - that was a response to him and then you blocked after his follow up message which was a response....so he went to text to rattle your cage again seeking a response - and he has got one - as he has got in your head.

Don’t respond. That’s holding onto your own power.

Have you blocked on all platforms?

He's playing you like a cat with a mouse. Look at you now, all worked up because he said a few words.

The best piece of advice I ever had, when I was worked up about something was one word: Forget.

I read it as he was holding out but now she has blocked me so I better acknowledge it...because i am sooo reasonable and trying to gain a advantage maybe.. with a touch of sarcasm thrown in

He was waiting for a response from you to his pleasant texts too. Think if Men feel or sniff any hesitation then, they won't let up if they think they are in a with a chance with getting back together... or to get some sex

It is a bit weird though to thank you...

Unblock him and that would mess with his head and see what he does.
I would but maybe I am a bit weird too..
He probably would check your online status all day.. some may say that most people do that anyway..an acceptable form of stalking

He wasn't really thanking you for blocking - he was thanking you for a reaction. One I dare say narked him off!
He was probably staying polite in the hopes you'd respond so he could a) turn the tables and ignore you or b) start interrogating you about why you stopped responding. I'd put money on it!

It was a passive aggressive snipe, not a genuine thank you! I thought that was really obvious - pay it no more attention OP. Done now!

@Redfox it wasn't aggressive or to actually thank you it was to get a reply back from you.

It was to pull you in to a conversation. Then he would of won. That's what he does, every now and then check to see if you are still available

He's realised you aren't going to shag him so he's trying to rent space in your head.

Evict him.