Money worries

[Sassywatch]

Hi everyone,

I’d like some help and advice.

My partner moved in with me where I own the house and he agreed to pay me rent and bills.

His house has tenants in and they are paying him rent.

We’ve kept everything seperate in that sense. I get nothing from his property and he gets nothing from mine. We are only 18 months in so we’re not ready to buy together yet.

He pays about 25% of my house costs.

He has decided that he does not want to pay anything other than a share of the bills “as I’m paying the mortgage anyway”. I don’t see this is fair or right in that he is happily benefiting from his tenants paying his mortgage but doesn’t take the value in paying for a roof over his own head.

In challenging further, he wants to put said “rent” in a savings account for our future and should we ever split, we go 50/50 on the savings.

I was brought up to pay my way and I’m feeling used. Should I be?

It's amazing how many of these pricks think the only one to benefit from the arrangement is them.

Willow... not a chance. It’s the final straw. I just don’t trust him.

he just couldn’t see my point of view

I learned at high cost to me that it was wouldn't not couldn't.

When you find yourself trying to explain fairness to an adult and they don't "get it" walk away. You are not going to change him and I think he is using you. If he can't afford his place then he probadly looks for women to support him. However he has saved 10k so the strategy works for him!

If there is no trust there is no relationship and he has used you throughout.

Kick this waster out of your home and rebuild your life. I would also suggest you read "Women who love too much" written by Dr Robin Norwood.

He's definitely using you to pas his own bank account 🌺

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Whose idea was it for him to move in? If he'd already rented his house out where had he been living?

Awfully convenient for him that he can't afford his own home so rents it out (at profit I presume) , moves into yours and then refuses to pay his greatly reduced share.

Thank god you're ending it, what a prick he is!

I'm so happy for you that you are getting rid. Who thinks they cannot afford their own house so they will leave rent free somewhere else? And they will save but only they can access it? At least he was so transparent you couldnt miss it

Me happy too 🙂!

Expect him to resist OP and try and make you feel bad.

This is a really cheap deal for him.
He's making great money from this situation.....don't be surprised if he resists ......until a better deal comes along.

how are you OP

Today is the day we end this.

I don’t care what comes out of his mouth, he’s gone!!

Good luck OP, you deserve more than this.

I think this is the right decision. You would be starting off unhappy with the arrangement and it would only get worse. Your resentment would just build. You said that there have been red flags already. Move forward and be happy.

Don't consider his savings suggestion. He could empty the account or keep it all if you split.

He should pay rent by standing order. Ensure the standing order shows up as "rent". He then can't say he's paying your mortgage.

Alternatively, call his bluff and say you've been thinking that maybe you should live in his house and rent yours out. See what his reaction is!

Seriously though, so you want to be with someone long term who is mean with money, treats you like this and is disrespectful? Kick him out!

Good luck for today @Sassywatch.

good luck OP 🌺

@Sassywatch

Today is the day we end this.

I don’t care what comes out of his mouth, he’s gone!!

Stay strong

OP how are you... are you okay 🌺