Used & hurt

[scaredofchange]

Feel so sad & angry tonight. I started seeing a guy in 2019 he had just broke up with his ex but really laid it on how special I was etc. Long story short I was a rebound and as soon as she wanted him back he went. I picked myself up and moved on. A year later out of the blue he contacts me again lays it on he was used to her so went back but was thinking about me and he broke up with her & left it 3 months to contact me to be on his own etc. Really fooled me stupid I know. We started dating for a while but I could feel his interest going to the point where he ghosted me. I didn't follow up or chase I felt humiliated, but kept if together. Yet tonight scrolling through Facebook There's a picture of him and his ex out for a walk together hand in hand. I'm just so angry I let him use me twice. I feel like such an idiot he must think I am a joke. I have him on social media and really feel like telling him how awful a person he is to lead someone on twice, but I know I should just leave it. Literally feel like such a mug. Need a hug 😢

You need a hug and you need to block him. Right now.

Some men are like boomerangs - the fuckers keep coming back when they are bored and horny.

This behaviour is no reflection of you whatsoever. He is awful. Please block him x

The gf he keeps going back to needs to block him too.

Hey thanks for replying. I was thinking if I block will I look bothered I have unfollowed so I don't see anymore, but then maybe I should block so he knows I am mad not that he will care x

Are you sure he was broken up from her when you went back with him ? Regardless just block him and move on . There is nothing better for these people than to be ignored .

I'm just really struggling why you would do that to someone twice. I trusted him because I thought he must have thought about this surely he wouldn't do it again. Looking back I was so naive

Block him on everything. It will show him you dont give a toss and wont stand for his BS anymore

I wouldn’t block him personally because I think
It’s showing you care , just delete him and his number and don’t ever let him suck you back in again , I’d be angry too but you’ll feel better in time and I guarantee he’ll contact you again , but this time you can have some satisfaction of ghosting him. Don’t message him honestly it’ll
Look desperate and just shows you care , go on tinder , distract yourself x

She needs to block him because she can’t guarantee she won’t go back when he texts again since she has done it twice now

He has been your learning curve and you'll not fall for it again with him or anyone else. I always think of the song Thank you, Next. Personally I'd just block him so he can't see or find you either.

Oh no I won't go back again. My pride is the one thing I have. I have never chased him first or second time. I genuinely thought he was a nice person and I gave him the benefit of the doubt, but now I can see who he really is. I have no feelings for him I just want to come out of this not looking like the idiot that I feel 😢

Block him. Who gives a fuck if he thinks you're angry / it's bothered you? You are angry, it has bothered you, those feelings are justified and you won't have anything to do with you again so there's literally no benefit to not blocking him! It doesn't matter if he notices or has an opinion on it. What does matter is safeguarding yourself against stuff that is hurtful / triggering, which he is. Block!

Tbh doesn’t sound like you can guarantee that as I bet you said that the last two times it happened? If he came back begging you would probably fall for it again so just block

Yes I guess your right who cares what he thinks as will never see him again. I just hate giving him the satisfaction to know that he has upset me, I deleted him number at Xmas so can't block that tho that's the only problem

I feel so embarrassed any worthless 😢

Change your number??

@scaredofchange

Yes I guess your right who cares what he thinks as will never see him again. I just hate giving him the satisfaction to know that he has upset me, I deleted him number at Xmas so can't block that tho that's the only problem

Well you can block him on everything else and then if he does text again you feel sure that you'll not engage anyway, so that's fine. As I said, there's no downside to blocking him.

Why is it the horrible people always get to be happy 😢

There's no need to be embarrassed. You gave him one more chance and he blew it. If you'd never tried, you'd never known. Onwards and upwards. Every day is a school day

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There's no need to be embarrassed. You gave him one more chance and he blew it. If you'd never tried, you'd never known. Onwards and upwards. Every day is a school day

That's so nice thank you x

@scaredofchange

Why is it the horrible people always get to be happy 😢

Ahhh but it may be that the love of your life wasn't ready for you and you needed to be with arsehole and this to happen so that the time is right. That's what happened with me

Don’t feel worthless- you’re just a nice, trusting person and he is a master manipulator. As for his ex he might be walking hand in hand but what does it mean? He is a loser and a user xx

Thanks everyone for the advise and nice comments. It's really cheered me up. X

He’s not happy though is he op! He’s trapped in what can’t be a very satisfying relationship if he keeps fucking off every so often. Better to be you than the poor woman that’s settled for him now.

You won't 'look bothered' if you block him. You will look like you want to ensure he cannot contact you which is pretty damning for him.

It's not about awful people getting to be happy either. His happiness may be based on a lie and it will come back on him.

At least you are free to meet someone nice now x

Don't feel bad, you were open to love and a relationship and he was an arsehole. It is his loss. You live and learn, it really wasn't your fault.