Stupid question I know and probably not really want I’m asking , I understand everyone has different boundaries and views on affairs / prostitution etc
I just want to discuss unfaithfulness with others as right now I don’t know what to do , I don’t feel
Ready to leave because I have a 4 small children one is just a baby and with covid situation I’m
Currently furloughed from work and the future of my job could be uncertain
Basically I’ve discovered the father of my 4 children and partner of 15 years has been sending ‘enquires’ to prostittues and making 1 minute phone calls to them on some occasional weekends, I’m obviously heartbroken , he keeps telling me it’s not about me how much he loves me , he’s cried , begged , telling me it’s something he wouldn’t go through with ? I’ve read through similar posts on here and seems many men say they don’t intend to go through with it then later found out they have so obviously that’s a concern to me too , if I could prove he actually slept with own i would move back to my parents with the kids tomorrow.
We’ve been together since teenagers , I can’t understand his behaviour it’s not like him at all he’s not someone you think would do this , he’s not sleezy , he’s attractive , has a good job , works. Hard etc. I have noticed he’s Been drinking more than usual but by no means a worrying amount and I just assumed it’s boredom been locked down and all his hobbies etc have stopped. I asked him why he said he doesn’t know but that he wouldn’t go through with it and was virtual to him, said he sometimes watched porn after ? (We’ve not had a lot of Sex due to pregnancy , new baby etc) and I won’t have an issue with porn. He said maybe sometimes boredom, or to see if he could ?!
What do you all think ?
Would love a mans opinion too
I keep thinking would I prefer if I’d found messages to some other woman he actually knows , then maybe I could say he didn’t intend on this escalating it just happened but with Sex workers it’s like he’s just gone and seeked it straight out ...