Can we have some positive OLD stories?

[Somethingmavelous]

Just been dumped by a guy I met online, we had only been seeing each other for a few months, but man it hurts.

I thought I might have found one of the good ones as although he wasn't perfect by any stretch I thought he was decent, intelligent, warm, kind and funny.
Turned out he was dishonest about what he wanted from me.

Please can I hear some heart-warming tales, of lovely men you've met online especially if you are in your 40s when you first met.
I need to know there might still be some hope for me (very unlikely to meet a bloke in real life because of my circumstances).

I met my lovely fiance on tinder - we're getting married this year. There are good men out there still OP - although he is unlike anyone I'd ever met online dating before so I'd given up hope too

Not quite in my 40’s but my now husband was 39 and I was 34. I had dated and spoke to many more people on tinder. Became quite good at filtering out the time wasters I think. Although still spent 3 months with someone who was sooo utterly different to me in every way (and not in a good way) it still makes me shudder that I could have been so blinded by romanticism! However now I am married and have just given birth to my first baby. People told me there must be something wrong with a 39 year old man who’d never been married or had kids but my response was always ‘what’s wrong with me then’ that shut them up! He’s a great man, even if he does annoy the hell out of me at times!!

Sorry about this @Somethingmavelous I can't really help as I've only found OLD to be an utter nightmare. I've recently gone through a similar experience and at first the pain was unbearable.

Hopefully someone else will soon come along with a positive story. I'll be following as I've been wondering if I should completely give up on OLD.

Can I ask, has he dumped you by directly contacting you or has he ghosted you?

Cross posted.

He did tell me @GerryoftheSerengeti - I think that fits his 'nice guy' narrative, but actually if he had been honest he was only after a short fling I would have been happy with that and not been left so upset by the whole thing.

I met my DH on POF, hidden amongst all the morons. He's so passionate about life, hardworking, a fantastic dad and stepdad, honorable, and my best friend in the whole world. Every day is an adventure.

I just still cannot believe that his ex wife threw away such an amazing life partner and cheated with a lazy, workshy, old smelly loser. I’m very thankful to the ex wife! 🤣

Both myself and my DH knew the instant our eyes met that we'd met "the one'. I'd have married him that afternoon if I could. He's passionate, emotional, energetic, funny, romantic. All of our kids adore him. He gets up every morning to drop me at work and makes me lunch and a coffee to go. I get flowers and little notes every week. If something needs doing around the house it gets done. If there's something he isn't sure how to do, he will teach himself. He's taught himself to fix cars, weld, plaster, bricklay... He just gets shit done. I’m his biggest fan.

I’m now sitting next to my lovely boyfriend I met in early July when lockdown eased the first time... I’m 44. I’ve been OLD on and off for 5 years... and had some really good stories, some of which I have shared on here... but never thought I would meet anyone nice. My motto with OLD was to do it till I meet someone in real life! COVID put an end to that! I adore my boyfriend and he the same and we never thought we would feel this way about someone in our 40s. It’s well worth persisting just based on this alone!

@Somethingmavelous That sounds familiar. Fitting the 'narrative'. I've had ghosting, love bomb, gaslighting, the lot.

Men are a constant disappointment to me.

I met the current Mr M on POF last Nov. We'd chatted a bit, but I wasn't overly keen on his pics and he seemed a bit shy. Turned out we stay in the same smallish village and unexpectedly met up in the local shop, got chatting and I've not been able to shake him off since. He's a great dad, fantastic with my three, always thinking of others, sometimes to his own detriment and is just so thoughtful and loving - vastly different to my ex.

I'd been OLD for about 13 months by that point and was quite happy dating/hooking up, so no one was more surprised than me when we got together 😂

Hi OP. I am sorry you are hurting. I have been there too and had literally given up but as I write this my lovely partner is downstairs building us some flat pack furniture with my cocker spaniel helping after just bringing me a cup of tea (as I am not feeling great). He is kind, patient, laid back and makes me laugh.

We had both given up therefore it took him over a week to contact me after matching on tinder (as he didn’t check it much which I thought was a good sign). No sign of love bombing and respected all my boundaries. Was happy to wait for intimacy. And it naturally progressed over time.

Mind you I went thru a fair few frogs prior to meeting him. But I developed a thick skin, a sense of humour and by the time I met my now partner I totally knew my boundaries and would not compromise.

Good luck

Never used old before and was persuaded to try it by a friend. I was dubious but my Fiance and I have been together 4 years, living together after 2 months and engaged after 5 months. I found it OK because I could see his likes, dislikes, music, hobbies etc.

No old good stories but my youngest years were saved by music. I felt heard and understood.

I think 🤔 this does not happen anymore. It does not help I loathe most the current music 😂😂😂

My sister met her bloke OLD. They've got 2 lovely kids and been married a decade. Good luck OP.

And about love. 40’s still very young and know many friends who met their partners and husbands at that age.

I had been single for over a decade with MANY shit dates.

Gave up on men but occasionally hate-swiped on Tinder.

Met DH at nearly 39. No game-playing - told him immediately what the deal was and what was important to me if I was going to un-single. Married within six months and baby came eleven months after meeting and genuinely not an accident

Met mine online in my late 20s. I was a single mum to 3, he was a few years younger than me so wasn't expecting it to really go anywhere, but 4 years later we're married with a 3 year old. I put up with plenty of shit before I met him though and he was worth the wait.

I think most people that have done OLD have a story similar to yours, don't give up hope, I met my husband OLD after having a few situations like yours!

I was on POF. Now I am married to him. Be warned! I've put up with him for over 10 years now, and he has to put up with me too!

@StormBaby

I met my DH on POF, hidden amongst all the morons. He's so passionate about life, hardworking, a fantastic dad and stepdad, honorable, and my best friend in the whole world. Every day is an adventure.

I just still cannot believe that his ex wife threw away such an amazing life partner and cheated with a lazy, workshy, old smelly loser. I’m very thankful to the ex wife! 🤣

Both myself and my DH knew the instant our eyes met that we'd met "the one'. I'd have married him that afternoon if I could. He's passionate, emotional, energetic, funny, romantic. All of our kids adore him. He gets up every morning to drop me at work and makes me lunch and a coffee to go. I get flowers and little notes every week. If something needs doing around the house it gets done. If there's something he isn't sure how to do, he will teach himself. He's taught himself to fix cars, weld, plaster, bricklay... He just gets shit done. I’m his biggest fan.

Oh how I needed to hear that after being ghosted (again) from OLD...

Your DH sounds like a dream 😊

Met OLD.... in 2004! Married with children

I met my now husband on POF. He’s AMAZING. I’m so lucky to have him in my life. I was 34 when we met and I’m now 6 months pregnant with our second child.

Met my DH on match. Married 10years now. Think he's a keeper

Met my lovely man online in September 2019. I was 47 and he was 49. He's kind, romantic, funny, sexy and a hard worker. It took a while to find him, but he was definitely worth the wait.

We met on Badoo. Chatted for a few weeks and then met up. We had great banter online and in messages, but I was afraid it wouldn't play out in real life. Thankfully it did.

Neither of us were dating others - I always focused on one at a time (I know that's probably the wrong way to do it, but I found it hard to find anyone I really clicked with).

Met my DH on Match in 2006 (I was 33 & he was 35). Married for nearly 12 years now. It can work but sorry you've been hurt. There were a couple of shockers from OLD before I met him

Met my now husband online nearly 5 years ago. We got married in September and now have a baby on the way