Does this new friend sound suspicious?

[Changeling26]

I met her in an online support group, as we’ve both dealt with toxic relationships. She’s quite a bit older than I am. I don’t mind that. But I am struggling with feeling paranoid and a reluctance to trust people.

She mentioned that she used to work as a spiritual healer and a psychic medium. That’s all fine and good, I guess. I’m willing to keep an open mind and believe that some people might have such gifts. I happened to mention to her that my dad passed away in 2019. By the end of the night she was suddenly saying that she got a message from my dad saying that he brought her and I together. That was all she said. I’m not going to lie, it struck me as a bit suspicious and possibly a cheap shot at me to get me to lower my defenses. I mean, if she could actually connect with my dad, couldn’t she have told me something more convincing? Something only he and I would know? Something more specific.

I don’t know what to think. She’s also randomly asked me physical things like how tall I am. In the back of my mind I’m afraid that she and her (still current) toxic husband might be trying something weird with me.

I wouldn't be sharing any personal information with this woman. She sounds dodgy as hell.

This woman is making you feel uncomfortable so trust your instincts. She does sound a bit odd.

Erm, she’s bonkers. Avoid like the plague.

Trust your instincts and back away.

It sounds like she's trawling online support groups to find vulnerable people.

Yeah, I think she’s bad news. A part of me wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt, but that’s an old habit of mine, and it’s what’s gotten me mixed up in toxic stuff to begin with 🤦‍♀️

And to be honest, you can't be certain it's actually a woman.

I'm another who thinks she's looking for vulnerable people to scam. I would be blocking her immediately.

Listen to your instinct. She sounds distinctly dodgy. Block her.

She’s not a friend.

Bet you my car she’s after money from you and within a week would be spinning you a story about how she was ‘desperate.’

Back away. Very fast

She's extremely manipulative. Don't have anything to do with her.

You have instincts for a reason. It doesn't look like you've ever met, so don't give any more personal details and distance yourself immediately.

Thank you, everyone 💐 I’m really grateful for your advice. No more doubting my instincts.

She's full of shit OP.

Predator

@MsDogLady

It’s disturbing how many creepy people there are in the world. Scares me.

Well dodgy. Manipulative and feeding off grief. The lowest of the low. Block her OP.

@Lalliella

I will. I feel like she is feeding off the grief and my vulnerability to an extent. Also, we’ve only been speaking very briefly for four days. She’s being intense really fast.

She's a grief thief.

She enjoys being part of other people's pain and either pretending to fix it or claiming she can.

Doesn't matter whether she believes she really can or not, what matters is that it feels shit to her subject victim.

Disengage. She is so so so bad for you, so unhealthy, so toxic and to be honest so batshit.

You owe her nothing. Disengage.

She sounds dangerous and manipulative.

She sounds like a weirdo. Drop her immediately!

How do you know her?

Sadly there are unscrupulous people like this woman who sign up to forums, advice groups etc. They target vulnerable people and attach themselves to them. They then feed off their vulnerabilities. Avoid this woman like the plague

So you're in a group for those in toxic relationships but somehow you are talking to a healer/medium about your father. Yes this is a scammer who is going to slowly pull you in. I belonged to a health forum once and every time a new poster submitted something a witch doctor from another country would post about their amazing ability to cure anything from herpes to aids. Tell her to piss off as you are being targeted.

@Justmuddlingalong

It sounds like she's trawling online support groups to find vulnerable people.

^^ This