Engagement Ring Advice

[MattRuns]

Hello,

32 year old male here, hoping for some advice.

I've been talking a lot with my partner recently about engagement, and i've been planning on proposing in the next 2-3 months.

She's an ocean lover. Works in that area, and loves the beach. Whenever we go to the beach, she picks up sea glass and collects it. With that in mind, I had the idea of getting her this ring -

glasswingjewellery.com/engagement-rings/loryn-sea-glass-ring

When we've discussed rings in the past, she mentioned she likes the idea of re-use or ethically sourced things, and knows that her nana had a lot of rings and had thought about having one of those.

Should I respect her wishes with it, speak to her parents and see about proposing with one of her nanas rings, or go ahead and do my own thing for now, but as it's only £500, mention that she can pick the ring she wants when i propose?

It's really pig headed male I know, but I worry that her parents are going to think i'm cheap if i ask for a ring from them. They're financially well off and they're lovely people but I don't want to look like i'm being cheap about it.

It’s a pretty ring, but very overpriced for what it is - silver and glass basically.

If she wants ethical, I would get an antique ring or a new ring from an ethical jeweller - look up Ingle and Rhode.

I actually agree with you that it looks like a bit of a cop out using one of her Nan’s rings.

I would propose without a ring then let her choose. That’s what we did.

Why not design a ring together using some of the stones from her nanas ring and a new stone from you. You dont need a ring to propose. You could do something personal (a message in a bottle hidden in a rockpool ?) Trying to think outside the box. You sound very thoughtful and i am sure you could think of something memorable.

I think she will wear that ring every single day and you should look together as a couple.
The days when the man buys the ring and the win to be has to adore it are long gone.
Whilst it is lovely for you to be so thoughtful I think this is not the purchase to make on your own.
Are you discussing getting engaged or is this a surprise? because you can look together before the engagement as well...

*the wife has to adore it

I think that ring is beautiful. It's simple and elegant and the colour is amazing. I love the Odeon and that's exactly what colour stone makes me think of, a gorgeous Odeon. I also like the story to it, if she loves the water and you love collecting beach glass together I think it's a very good choice.

Oceon not Odeon. Bloody serves me right for typing spec free

Hi OP. That's a nice ring, but I don't think it looks like an engagement ring... even if I saw it on the correct finger, I would just think it was a normal ring. I definitely don't think engagement rings need to be diamond OR expensive, but I don't think that ring has that wow factor.

I would consult the parents and see what they think. If she's considered one of her Nan's rings then her parents probably already know so they won't think you're being "cheap". One of my Nan's rings is earmarked as my engagement ring and my Mum know this.

@seensome

Nice as a dress ring, maybe a birthday or anniversary gift but nothing beats a real diamond for an engagement ring, sorry but I think she might be disappointed.

Rubbish, I don't have a diamond engagement ring and have never wanted one.

That ring looks beautiful and I would love it (and would happily have it as an engagement ring) but I do think it is very overpriced.

Not read the whole thread but just buy a secondhand ring from a shop/pawnbrokers/vintage shop.

It's actually a nice idea to reuse an existing ring.

The ring you linked is a knuckle ring - buy a proper ring instead.

Would absolutely hate that ring as my engagement ring.
Don't do it.

I don’t understand why you can’t propose without a ring
I have had 4 proposals none of which was with a ring!
Varied between - let’s get married and full bended knee
Then we went and chose a ring together

The ring from her grandparents will not only be economical and ethically sourced as she wants but it will become a family heirloom and will be more valuable than any ring you could buy.

Her parents would also be understandably proud that you’d asked and listened to her wishes.

I would have likes an emerald in my engagement ring or sapphire but DP didn’t want to get me a coloured ring so I got a diamond. I love it all the same but it’s not what I would have chosen (even though.. I did try it on first😂)