Met a woman on OLD back in November, and finally got to have my first date with her mid December (lockdown, and having to self isolate making things difficult).
We've had 4 dates (all socially distanced walks). All went well. I noticed (because she would message to let me know she was there) that she always turns up 20 minutes early. We've talked about this because the more I get to know her, the more she seems to want to keep arrangements loose, because she doesn't like fixed times. She seems quite anxious about being late to things.
The other thing she really doesn't like is talking on the phone. She cancelled our first phone date, so we nearly ended up having no dates.
Now we can't meet in person, even for a walk (don't live in same town) so the only way to see her is virtual. She has said she's willing to give virtual a try, but that "she's not great on the phone".
I feel shitty for stretching her comfort zone though. Problem is, kinda need to know when next dates are, otherwise my anxiety over uncertainty gets triggered.
Starting to feel like if I can't arrange date 5, or if she flakes on date 5, to stop my self esteem being torn to shreds I'll need to say I'm not looking for a texting buddy so thanks and goodbye.