If you were told your sister is getting a divorce, would you ring her to see if she is OK?

[MeMySonAndI]

I'm just asking because I have spent the week emailing with my older sister's 8 yrs old DD, about 8yr old stuff, while wondering if my parents had told her that H and I are separating.

I have just spoke to my father who said that she knows but she doesn't want to talk about it! I'm fuming and wondering why on Earth I have been acting as a sister and providing support when needed for such a selfish bloody cowardly individual who decides that she doesn't want to talk about it so who cares if I need some support?

I can really feel your frustration here.

ButI would ask you to consider what you want in the future? a good relationship with your IL? for the sake of ds?

try to be bigger than the immediate frustration - I KNOW its hard , but look to the longer term and never ever do anything which lowers your own standards

Oh well, I have playing the being bigger role and the only thing I got, apart of 10 years of humilliations that could be considered as abuse, is the disolution of my own marriage. My MIL is a bit of a mumsnet legend...

So no, I would rather not have contact with them, and considering MIL does things that can potentially harm my son, I really would like her not to have contact with DS unless she is supervised by my ex or any other responsible adult with the will of a dragon to stop her on her tracks, thank you.