Would you make out on a second date?

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Just thinking about things before. I seem to have weirdly set these dating rules in my head. These are my ‘boundaries’.
Date 1: Hug
Date 2: Kiss, make out if I like him
Date 3: Same as date 2
Date 4: Maybe sex is now on the cards

Not during a pandemic!

I think everyone's boundaries will be different, for me it would be too much of a jump to go from kiss on date 3 to sex on date 4 but i'm probably a prude!

I’d have a smooch on date 1 if it went well!

Far too long ago to remember.

Sex on first date if the attraction was strong and if I knew this 'relationship' wasn't going anywhere.
However if there was an attraction plus a spark, I would do the same as you, maybe even keep the sex for a later date just to see how it pans out.

I used to not kiss properly until about date 3. Sex was about 5/6. But it makes NO difference, so fuck it. If you like him and you want to do it, shag him on the first date if you want to.
Earliest I've had sex is date 3.
Has made no difference to the ongoing relationship whether it was 3 or 6.

I had a proper snog with dh on date 1, I was 19 though. Sex on date 5 I think, was a long time ago

Kissing on a first date yes, other sexual stuff after a handful of dates starting with ‘mild’ stuff, actual sex not for a few months.

OP you’ll feel what is right for you. Theres no point following someones elses schedule, the only right one is the one you feel is righr for you.

Meh, I shagged DH within hours of first laying eyes on him.

Do what you like OP

What does "make out" mean?

I don't think I ever had rules like this. I don't think I'd be against kissing on a first date. Depends if it was OLD or if I knew him fairly well I suppose and how much I liked him.

Kiss/make out from date 1, no sex until several dates down the road, ideally around 3 months in. Not rules as such, I just wouldn’t want to sleep with someone until I’m really comfortable with them.

Hmm, depends on the chemistry, if lots of it from the off, it likely happens sooner rather than later. Current beau, date 1 was coffee, so chat, hug goodbye at end as went well and a yes, nice to meet again. Date 2 bowling and bar ( both driving so not drinking), was hot but had set a rule of nothing below waist though the car windows got very steamed up . Date 3 meal, after, ok, back to his, just couldn't hold out longer, but he's got, still is 1.5 years late. I'm glad I did the nothing below waist on 2nd date, kinda think it left him gagging for more so more fun the next time, probably would hold our even longer next time.

Is 'making out' what we used to call heavy petting? Well, I say we, I meant the posters of the stuff that was banned at the swimming pool 😁

Hot, not got

Completely depends on connection, attraction and chemistry. First date with DP lasted 45 hours because we liked each other so much (no sex, lots of kisses, cuddles and chatting )

No idea what "make out" means. More than a kiss but less than a shag? So, like, wanking him off?!? All feels a bit schoolgirl...but maybe I'm just old

I always assumed making out meant snogging with some added boob / bum groping. No?

Had sex on date 2 with dh 8 years ago.it worked for us!

Surely it depends.

You can have all the rules you like and they can go out the window when you meet someone you really, really like.

If you’re doing OLD, most first dates are not great and you wouldn’t even consider kissing. And there is then no date 2 (weirdly a large proportion of these men seem to think the date went far better than it did and pester you for a second).

It would depend what I wanted out of it.

Is my intention 'relationship' (date 3+) or is he someone I think is hot but not someone I'd want as a partner (maybe date 1!)

I thought making out was snogging.

I slept with my ex the first weekend I met him (I met him on the Friday night, took him home on the Saturday morning), I was with him for 14 years, others I never slept with in 2 years (I really didn't fancy him not sure why I stayed with him) so I think every situation is different.

No rules for me. I don’t really see the point and I’ve little interest in dating people who judge me for sex on a first date.

So yes, if I was attracted to someone I would make out on a first date (and potentially take it further). If that meant they didn’t wish to pursue a relationship I’d consider it a bullet dodged from someone with views that did not align with my own. I’d only regret it if the sex was bad...

Rule 1: do whatever you want, what feels right, what makes YOU happy.