why does he resort to calling me names?

[cosmikdebris]

'bitch' 'useless' and 'stupid little girl' are a favorite. our relationship is pretty good, we have a 6 month old, we are doing so well with her. hes taken a while to get into the swing of things but we are getting there. whenever hes mad at me, usually for something petty or completely pointless, he resorts to calling me horrible hurtful names and he just wont stop. he tends to bring up things ive done in the past, that i always thought we go over.
its destroying my confidence. whats the point in me trying for our relationship if he just doesnt have any respect for me at all?
we have a 6 year age gap, which makes me think that could be why? but its never been an issue before.

i dont really know what to do, talking and being nice does nothing.

Would you want a man to call your daughter those names?

She won’t be six months forever. She will hear it and internalise it as normal.

Please leave, for her.

www.womensaid.org.uk/ please check out the site and ask for help x

Because he hates you.

If it makes you feel better, it isn't just that he hates you, he hates women, in general. Or at any rate despises them- us- which amounts to the same thing. There is nothing particularly hateful about you that makes him hate you, or despicable about you that makes him despise you. He'll despise the next one too (but she is not your problem, the poor creature. You can only protect yourself and your child).

Never mind a 2 parent family- your child would be better off growing up with only you in a lighthouse on a rock than living with this piece of work.

our relationship is pretty good

No, it really really isn't.

@SueDeNimm
Save your vitriol for those that are.

Vitriol? Nonsense.

Just to reiterate, the age gap has nothing to do with him calling you names. It’s because he doesn’t give a shit about you or value you.

SueDeNimm To be honest, the way you spoke to the OP wasn't any better than the way her partner speaks to her. She is not inferior to you, she deserves respect and kindness from all of us. OP I don't want to put pressure on you but please bear in mind that abusive men are dangerous men. Perhaps you could start secretly planning your escape in small ways. Collecting documents etc. Pack an emergency go-bag in case things escalate. Above all, please believe in yourself. You have to trust that you can get out of this horrible relationship to protect yourself and your daughter.