Whos on Mumsnet this New Years Eve??

[AmywithanL]

Seeing as we are in lockdown, im in Tier 4 here...hiw is everyone bringing in the 2021?

Theres alot of posters whos posted recently about recently separating, myself being one of them, and have found them selves alone or just them and their DC...
So lets keep each other virtual company and talk about forgetting the crap year we’ve had and what we want and will achieve in 2021.

Next year I will be putting my marital home on the market and finding somewhere to rent. My youngest will be starting school and I am going to colour my hair Red!!

Bring It On 2021!! 💪🏼

Hi @AmywithanL

I am also one of those people who have separated in 2020 and have a thread going.

I’m at home with DDs and Ex , he is due back soon as he is with new GF at the mo. My thread explains all that.

I’ll be keeping my eye on this thread, thanks for starting it

Hello Sadnessallaround

Goodness, il try and find your thread. I bet its hard having your ex there with you...

Lets hope this thread can offer some support...Happy New Year

Part of the separated/spilt up crew... Couldn't be happier to be away from the violent b*stard...
2021 will be bumpy as he's taking me to court for contact.. But feel happier to be on my own and with my little girl and safe.

Can I join?

Not separated but have a feeling we might next year.

Happy new year, everyone.

Anyone can join! Hi everyone.

I was the one who separated from my partner, he was/is a lying narcissist. With him for 7 years before I realised he was never going to change. Im sad our family has broke, but looking forward to a fresh happy start with my children.

Im on my own tonight too. Not recently single but my DD is with her dad tonight so I'm spending time on here to distract myself from the loneliness.

Just to say I spent the best two years of my life with dyed red hair. Good luck with that, I think it's a wonderful idea. And good luck with everything else!

Slept the new year in ( Im in Oz) and woke up alone in the house as ex is out partying. Of all the things to happen in 2020 i never saw separation as one of them. Hoping to be able to move on amicably and start the divorce by Christmas 2021. Its not what I wanted and I have no idea what the future holds, but I am determind to get through this. To all of you seeing the year out, heres hoping 2021 is better for us all.

Hi! I am one of the recently separated ones!

Got my babies with me tonight so I’ll have a bath when they’re asleep and an early night.

Next year I am going back to University, I couldn’t be more excited.

Here’s to 2021, hope it’s amazing for you all x

@notinthiseconomy not separated either.

I'm hoping 2021 brings a divorce. I expect it'll be acrimious, which will make it my 3rd really bad year in a row. It will be worth it to be free of my marriage.

@AmywithanL great idea. I've been wanting to colour my hair again for ages, just have to decide what colour I want to go.

Eternally single but with gratitude for amazing friends. My resolution for 2021 is a zero tolerance policy on negative self talk. This evening I will be writing things I want to put behind me on bits of paper and throwing them on the fire. Happy New Year Mumsnet. Thank you for teaching me so much. Wish I had found you in my 20s but glad I have now.

Feeling a bit scared that my DD could potentially not be with me on an Xmas or new year if her father gets his way.. Hopefully the court see right through him and he's not given overnights as he's so dangerous and abusive.
So glad to be away from him.

Me. I have wine and am celebrating this year coming to an end

Part of the recently separated crew! Sat with both children watching crappy kids Tele after a McDonald's delivery would have never been 'acceptable' if STBEXH was here so this just feels perfect. Something very emotional about going into a new year after leaving him? Bittersweet. How are you all feeling about 2021? Xx

Not single yet very bored anyway.
My plans for 2021 I might add a few copper highlights to my hair I'm bored of it too.
Lots of educational plans no motivation for anything I suspect my plan will stay a plan like last year.

I'm in with and M&S Golden Balls.
Relationship ended in 2019 so I've had 2 "interesting" years.🤦‍♀️

I am stronger and smarter and looking forward to 2021.

Alone with the two kids two. Pretty sure this is it for us too. Scared of being on my own but also a bit excited. Looking forward to a cleaner house!

I would love to start doing something for myself next year. Ive no hobbies or teams or anything. I have no one to look after my children and when I was with my ex he worked away through the week and at weekends he would go off and do his football. So I never had tine for myself. Im hoping I can do something now the kids will be going to their dads on an alternate weekend but I dont know what yet.

Whats everyone drinking? I like to have a drink and let my hair down now and again but give me a cup of tea any day!!

And yessss to the cleaner house! Ive re decorated mine since I packed the ex’s bags and kicked him out 🙌🏼
Lovely greys and pinks running through my home now

@AmywithanL

Hello Sadnessallaround

Goodness, il try and find your thread. I bet its hard having your ex there with you...

Lets hope this thread can offer some support...Happy New Year

@AmywithanL

My thread...

Sad,lonely and a long time since i’ve smiled....

I would like to do a little something for me next year, not sure what at the moment however one thing I am sure of though is that i’ll be back to calorie counting once all the Christmas goodies have gone from the house

6th year as a single parent.. Hang in there those of you are new to it.. It does get easier. Having said that, I'm hiding from my tweens in the bar. They want to stay up, but not do any nice family thing, just their usual x box / YouTube / own thing. I can't watch what I want as it's unsuitable for kids so I really want them to just piss off to bed. Have barely seen partner this year due to Covid, ex is married to ow and is a standard eow / cms only type who exhibits faux concern if the kids have a problem but does fuck all to help. And breathe. Cheers everyone 🍻

God, hiding in the bath, not bar!!! There's a Freudian slip!!

I'm laid on the sofa with wine. And a dog with a wonky Covid cut.

Revelling in the knowledge I aren't having to suffer ex's hillbilly new years carnage.

Best New Years Eve I've ever had

Sadnessallaround

I read your post. How awful for you but what a complete idiot he is.

So is he coming back from his OW tonight?? Id bloody lock the doors and keep the key in so he cant get in!
Bit hard with your DC though, I guess. And what you said about your daughter sending the message to him even after everything he has done...I second what a pp said about her trying to keep in his ‘good books’ so he doesnt abandon her. You ARE her safe place and in time she will see for herself who she can depend on.

Hi everyone! I’m on here too 🙌