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Hubby hates me working

56 replies

CrazyHappyMom · 28/12/2020 22:25

So my partner has always worked (been together 20 years 2 kids aged 10 and 15) I had always been a stay at home mom but decided I wanted to apply for the training for a job in the ambulance service. Anyway I had been there 8 months when the kids went back to school and my hubby had no business to go back to due to Covid. Anyway the last 3 months he has really struggled with me working,he doesn't say it but I feel it,he will make little digs sometimes and he looks really down. I have asked him and he said it's a struggle for him knowing I am in an office environment and I have this whole other life that he needs to get used to. Obviously I would rather be at home but the money is needed now and I feel like I have put a lot into the job,I wish I could make him feel more at ease about the whole situation but I haven't a clue how to.

OP posts:
TwentyViginti · 29/12/2020 11:00

And other posters are right, he's not traditional or you would be married. He's just sexist, not traditional.

Yes. You're not married, so just boyfriend/girlfriend who live together.

Keep your job.

Sn0wFantasy932 · 29/12/2020 11:08

If he is not working, is he claiming universal credit contributions based job seekers allowance ?
Is he applying for jobs ?
Or is he self employed, has he applied for the available help ?

Is he doing household chores ?

Can he volunteer ?

Are you paying into the work place pension ?

You need to look at your long term future
State retirement age is 66+ depending on your age

Sn0wFantasy932 · 29/12/2020 11:10

Can you recommend him for a job where you work ?

wewereliars · 29/12/2020 11:51

Hi Op, your relationship is not traditional as you are not married. You have taken a huge financial gamble by being an unmarried SAHM. Maybe marry him now?

wingingit987 · 29/12/2020 12:46

Why do you one of you to be a stay at home parent..... your kids are 10 and 15. Can't your bloke look for a new job?

Pinkyandthebrainz · 29/12/2020 21:11

Tell him to grow up. He sounds like a real catch.

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