Partner thinks my daughter is controlling me

[JeffJen1234]

Ok...so I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, we don't live together. I have 2 children at home, 18 year old son and daughter 16. For the past year I have been staying over at my boyfriend's overnight twice a week. Recently I found out that my daughter is suffering from anxiety at night when I'm not sleeping at home. I've not slept at my boyfriend's anymore but he has taken it badly. He thinks she is putting it on and is just pretending so I stay home, he also says she shouldn't have anxiety as my son is home and I should just leave her. I understand he misses me staying with him but surely he should understand I can't just leave my daughter like she is. (He can't sleep at mine as he has a dog that would attack my cat)

@Ineedteabags she wasn't 16, she was 15 as she is 16 now but she's been doing it for a year. It wasn't a one off it was 2 nights a week, every week, the fact the daughter now has anxiety shows it didn't have a good impact don't you think?

What a twat! Whether your daughter is 12 or 40 if she needs you, he should understand that and not insist you dose her up on meds just to stay at his!

Good luck OP, I hope you find one of the better fish in the sea next time, and well done for standing your ground and respecting your daughter's needs. She'll be grateful I'm sure.

Basically he wants you to throw your DD under the bus so he can get his twice weekly shag. What a prince.

How dare he suggest antidepressants for your DD...what an idiot he is. Good riddance 👏

Really? Your bf suggests medicating your dd in order to sustain his sexlife.

What a prince among men. What a shining knight and gentleman. What a caring soul and kind person to share your life with. Beg him back immediately.

So his dog is more important than your DD. Good decision.

@shallbe yes you are right and that's fair enough when she was 15.
I just meant prior to the OP realising she was anxious about being at home alone at night it isn't irresponsible to leave a 16 year old with an older brother too. Myself and friends at the same age were all left on our own overnight when parents went away etc, my mum remarried when I was 15 and before they married she regularly went on 'dates' with my stepdad often overnight so that he wasnt staying over in the house where I was.
Everyone is different and I'm sure the OP didn't realise her daughter was going to feel like this.
That aside the OP has made the right choice, children should always come first 🙂

Why can't the dog stay at home? How old is it? Can't it look after itself? Leave it some food out and a bowl of water. It'll be grand.*

*Of course I'm being sarcastic. Please don't choose this fool over your daughter.

An obvious soloution.....medicate the child so the man and his dog aren't inconvenienced...🙄

He wanted you to medicate your child, so that his penis could take priority. I hope you raise your standards significantly when selecting the next boyfriend. Holy shit.

No suggestion from him of him taking his dog to the vet for chill pills instead? Medicate a child was his go-to plan. You are well rid of him. What a disappointment.