I’ve always had a habit of going for men who are very busy, usually in a job context, and not hugely available to me in the sense that I have to fit around them. Part of this is that I am good at managing my work and my days that i don’t mind driving or cooking etc, and I’m m quite happy doing my own thing and easy going in that respect. However I would love a close knit relationship generally and I’m aware of my tendency to go for men who are like this. I now try to avoid it. I don’t know if I’ve gone too far here though...
Chatting to a very polite man who has a busy job. He was very chatting on the online messaging, maybe taking a couple of days to reply each time - all fine. I suggest a we exchange numbers and chat - he says great. We chat one night - he texts afterwards to say it was nice and when am I free again to speak or meet for a walk? We speak another night, another two hours. He’s well mannered and asks about my day etc.
This time I suggest meeting for the walk over the weekend. We arrange Sunday, he says he’s free all the time as he’s off work and obviously nowhere is open. He says he’s looking forward to it. But I could sense he would cancel I’m not sure why! He was polite as usual so I don’t know why I thought this. Anyway, today I have a message saying let’s do another time, maybe another weekend... first he’s off all week so that’s odd isn’t it? Even if he thought I was working why not actually set a time for next weekend? I just replied saying ok let me know and wished him a good day.
I realise all this makes me sound like hard work! I promise I’m not...I’m actually just trying to be careful about things for once, rather than going for men who show signs of being unable to commit from the outset that I miss and then end up wasting my time with later on.
I just feel a bit cold to him since we had such good chats and then for him to cancel like that doesn’t seem like dating is a priority for him?