Does this mean he isn’t attracted to me

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Hi everyone
I recently started talking to this guy. He is amazing in every way. He is so sweet and says the nicest things and tells me how attracted to me he is. He seems to really like me. We have tried to sleep together on two separate occasions now and both times he couldn’t get an erection. I dont know where to go from here. Does this mean he doesn’t find me attractive enough,,he acts like he finds me super attractive so I’m so confused and upset.
Advice to like be great x

Probably just nerves. My DH was like this at the very beginning. Once we got over that we’ve never had a problem again.

Give him a couple more low pressure chances then walk away. Nothing worse than a constant limp dick. His problem will become your problem.

It could well be nervousness and fear of disappointing you OP. This happened to a bloke I met about 15 years ago. It came right in a big way after a few attempts IYKWIM?

Just keep getting together. Tell him, you don't need to have sex and just cuddle.

My advice is : don't give up on him if you like him, unless of course he goes cold toward you in some way.

Thanks everyone. I don’t want to walk away yet because he is by far the greatest guy I ever me 😖 I will carry on seeing him for w while longer see what happens xx

Wow some quite weird theories flying about here.

It sounds like, first time could have been the booze / performance anxiety, 2nd time just performance anxiety +1 level ramped up (due to first failed episode). If he has kids and is early thirties maybe he just needs to relax into it. Can you suggest doing something in the bedroom, like for example full body massage, that could relax you both and maybe during the course of this things might take a turn for the better. If it doesn't, just enjoy the massage and maybe try again (massage) at later date with the weight of expectation gone you could see improvements?