Finding photos of women on his phone

[mum2benicole]

Long story short been with him 11years have 2 children as far as I'm aware we have no issues. His phone started acting up won't charge ext. He's left it for me to try charge, me thinking oh ill send all the photos to my phone all of the kids to save them as alot are from there young years. I found a number of pictures of a few other women and theres more than 1 of one of them. Blond skinny and beautiful all of which I don't see myself as. There is pron which I'm not bothered about it's the photos..... I click I for and they have been sent via what's app but I can't find the chat.... I sent photos of my self half nudes and things but not a single one is in his phone? What's that about do I not do it for him anymore.

@Opentooffers

You said this:

Bloody hell, WhatsApp pics doesn't equate to cheating. Some men send each other some quite grim porn clips via WhatsApp, sad but true. There may well not be any chat around the pics. OP if porn doesn't bother you, I don't see that this should either, it won't be any worse than that. I think you are perhaps reflecting how you are feeling about yourself here, in that women who you perceived as prettier than yourself are beginning to make you feel insecure. Whether it's a pic of a pretty girl or porn, it will just be the same wank fodder. May need to address why you are feeling less secure lately.

Then I said this:

Ugh grown men who share pictures of naked women on WhatsApp give me the ick. It's not a jealousy thing, it's just pathetic and sleazy. My bar is higher than that and it's ok if yours is too OP.

My post was more in response to @Opentooffers saying OP's insecurities are to blame if a woman doesn't like her partner sharing 'wank fodder' between friends. It's not jealousy in my case, I just think it's pathetic to be sharing pictures of tits and arses with mates as adults as if it's really cool to go all 'lads lads lads' / 'boys will be boys'.

I can't personally see where I've twisted words or been angry...

Your words did read to me as saying that loads of men exchange pictures of women / porn so it's not something to be that bothered about and suggested the reason OP is bothered is jealousy or insecurity. I then pointed out that it would bother me because it's pathetic and sleazy, not because I'm jealous or insecure.

If I misinterpreted your words or misunderstood them you could point that out without pointed comments I'm angry or not being 'nice'. How odd.

It wasn't a personal attack, it was a response to something a stranger said on a discussion forum. Chill out!

@youvegottenminuteslynn thanks for bolding my statement which clearly states that I said its some men, whereas you read loads. Also, how saying it's grim and sad , you get not something to be bothered about, is your own slant on it. OP said herself she isn't upset by porn, there's no point in trying to make her be upset about it because it causes you offence.
Anyway, not helpful to OP to justify your own stances on a forum, so I won't be engaging in further pointless bickering.
Hope you got to the bottom of it OP, and you have a Merry Xmas .

[quote Opentooffers]**@youvegottenminuteslynn* thanks for bolding my statement which clearly states that I said its some men, whereas you read loads. Also, how saying it's grim and sad , you get not something to be bothered about*, is your own slant on it. OP said herself she isn't upset by porn, there's no point in trying to make her be upset about it because it causes you offence.
Anyway, not helpful to OP to justify your own stances on a forum, so I won't be engaging in further pointless bickering.
Hope you got to the bottom of it OP, and you have a Merry Xmas .[/quote]
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