AIBU? Date this evening

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I've got a date this evening with a guy I've been chatting to. He seems pleasant enough. He came up on my fb 'people you may know', presumably because I have his number. Of course I had a look at his page and something has really put me off...he shared a post about a Taylor Swift concert being cancelled and captioned it something like 'Taylor's been cancelled! Nooooo' with a crying face.

For some reason I know have the ick. It's fine if guys like Taylor Swift but he seems to be a bit of a mega fan to be posting something like that? It just seems a bit effeminate and immature to me and I'd prefer someone a bit more manly, you know?

Of course I shouldn't just judge him on this or read too much into his fb page but I think it is a bit unusual for a man of 31 to be such a big fan of Taylor Swift.

AIBU?

He has also posted an article about some kind of vindication Taylor has had from Kanye West captioned ‘I always believed in you Taylor!!!’ from March.

This seems weird to me...

Yeah that would be a no from me too. I'm shallow like that.

I was chatting to a guy and he came up as someone I might know on facebook. I'm glad I looked as he was a massive Tommy robinson/Britain First fan. He seemed so nice too! I cancelled the date cos I knew we would be polar opposites. If he gives you the ick leave it, lifes too short.

Yes. seems like a bit of a dim wit to be into things like this, and bothering about social media stuff also.

Some women will post this while also complaining they are single and asking why nobody wants to be with them.

Get a life.

There’s nothing effeminate with liking an artist and being upset they aren’t performing anymore. Do manly men not care ? Can manly men not like Taylor Swift?

Maybe it was an inside joke aimed at his mates?. Or maybe he just really likes Taylor Swift. Shake it off OP

I think that would just make me laugh tbh.
Could be worse!

Someone is effeminate and immature because they are disappointed that an event has been cancelled

Are men no longer allowed to enjoy music when they turn 31?

I would still give it a go. Might have been aimed at a particular friend or maybe he likes Taylor swift. Who cares. Go and find out.

I do know what you mean.

😂😂😂

I think the problem is yours. Esp now as she's becoming a bit of a crossover artist this year with her collaborators like The National, I know plenty of men who like her.

Plus as others say, you've no context, it could easily be an in joke. If I were judged on my public posts = angry left wing feminist.

Odd and a turn off to me- however a little part of me wonders if it’s a piss take, inside joke between him and his friends and would go on the date to subtly find out

Wouldn’t put me off. In fact I’d be kind of impressed that he was comfortable enough in his own skin to be open about liking an artist whose main following is (I assume), female.

It also COULD be an in joke with friends. Which is also fine.

Or maybe he just really likes Taylor Swift. Shake it off OP

I realise it seems a little odd but as long as it's not part of a wider pattern don't let it put you off.

You can usually tell from fb if there's something off. Loads of posts about nothing in particular / memes and attention seeking. Generally trying to hard.

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Maybe it was an inside joke aimed at his mates?. Or maybe he just really likes Taylor Swift. Shake it off OP

Brilliant!

I think maybe give it a miss and let him find someone a little less shallow and sexist.

Yabvu and sound like a music snob. Who cares if he likes Taylor Swift? It doesn't mean anything at all. Weird. Plus you were FB stalking him, he didn't even bring it up. So you don't know the context.

Maybe you should add specific tastes in music to your online dating profile if its a deal breaker.

It's a far better sign than the sneery snobby opinions about Taylor Swift/pop music that you usually get from straight men!

I'm a massive fan of an 80's boy band and I made a point of mentioning it on my profile. It led to conversations about music and I was able to filter out the guys who were too judgemental

I don't know much about her actually other than that she seems quite decent? In love with her British boyfriend/husband? Haven't really listened to her music.

Seems quite an innocuous thing to like. I'd go on the date and tease him a little. If it doesn't work out, fairy nuff.

My first thought was that he’s probably taking the piss? Might be a sarcastic inside joke aimed towards a mate or something?

Only way to find out is to go on the date and ask what his musical tastes are lol

It’s not an inside joke - there’s pics of him at one of her concerts. It just seems like a bit of an obsession, esp as he poster about Taylor’s spat with Kanye. It seems to go beyond musical taste...

Well, it's really up to you.

I'd find it quite funny if a date was really into Cher, for example.

Kayne was a bit nasty to her, if I recall correctly? If potential date is really obsessive then that would put me off but you don't know that this is the case, do you?

It's not like he's venerating a porn star.

You could always just message him saying "what's with the Taylor Swift??" and take it from there.