Ex boyfriends new partner blocked me?

[HPmummy19]

Hello!
Just a general wondering really and wanted to hear people's thoughts on it.
My exP, also the father of my son, has a new girlfriend (not completely sure they are official but they are seeing eachother). I don't know the girl personally but know they've been seeing eachother for a month or two. Anyway, I've never bothered them, I don't even talk to my ex as he is an absolute tool and disowned my son so why the hell would I want anything to do with him, but funnily enough noticed she has blocked me on Facebook and Instagram? I know this because I was with a friend who brought my ex up in conversation (asking if he has asked about his son lately) and we were on the subject of him having a new partner and she could find her social media accounts but I couldn't?
I personally found it very random and instantly was a bit offended as I can only take from that that my exP has painted me in a terrible light, most likely said I'm a crazy bitch that is going to contact her? God knows 😂
Just wondered what people's opinions were on why she might have blocked me?
I know it's probably not that deep and I am thinking too much into it. Unfortunately my depression and anxiety lead me to over analyse every situation in my life 🤦🏼‍♀️ hence why I've turned to Mumsnet to vent!

@Mittens030869

I'm not sure why some posters are being so argumentative? If you want to argue like this, you should go onto AIBU. This is the Relationships board where posters look for support.

The OP has said that she has anxiety and overthinks things, she said that in the opening post so it wasn't a drip-feed.

Thank you so much I appreciate this comment ❤️

I blocked my H's ex-wife because she was still friends with some of his family members on FB and I didn't want her face popping out every time I checked their profiles, which had happened. I also didn't want her looking at my profile or myself being tempted to look at hers. Simple, really.

@HPmummy19 you are in the wrong because you are making a fuss about a choice she made.

You have no clue if she has anxiety, or that she is just trying to prevent issues. Instead you are writing posts complaining and hoping strangers with agree what she did is wrong.

You looked at her profile with a friend. You both had a conversation about her. So she was right to take the action she did.

And my experience is helpful because dps ex would also state that she's a calm person, who doesn't like drama but still creates it with the excuse of her dc's safety.

The fact you believe she did it because of stuff he said about you means the situation is heated and has issues. Maybe she wants to date him for a bit without getting all this drama

No worries, OP. I've been on citralopram for a several years myself, along with other medications, and know all about overthinking.

@Redflaggs With all due respect, I think you're projecting. You have no way of knowing that the OP is like your DP's ex at all.

She's said that she overthinks things because of her anxiety, there's no reason not to believe her.

Have you tried peer support op? I have personally found this more beneficial than talking therapies.

When I first used it, I was honest with the "match maker" and said I have no idea what I need support with, depends what comes up at the time.

My peer support person was amazing, and we would generally chat about whatever shit I wanted to at the time. They themselves had similar issues to myself so had the been through and understood where I was coming from.

Also found out loads more from them about local services.

[quote Redflaggs]@HPmummy19 you are in the wrong because you are making a fuss about a choice she made.

You have no clue if she has anxiety, or that she is just trying to prevent issues. Instead you are writing posts complaining and hoping strangers with agree what she did is wrong.

You looked at her profile with a friend. You both had a conversation about her. So she was right to take the action she did.

And my experience is helpful because dps ex would also state that she's a calm person, who doesn't like drama but still creates it with the excuse of her dc's safety.

The fact you believe she did it because of stuff he said about you means the situation is heated and has issues. Maybe she wants to date him for a bit without getting all this drama [/quote]
I never said what she did was wrong for blocking me? Where have you got that from. I came to Mumsnet to ask people's opinions and experiences (such as yours) on why she may have blocked me? Did I ridicule the girl once? No? I have said and wouldn't say a bad word about someone I don't know.
My exP and I have no drama, there is no drama for her to anticipate except of course any lies my exP feeds her? Hence me going on to explain the abuse and my circumstances with exP. He messages me abuse about having to pay CSA weekly, I rarely respond and when I do I am very civil. I don't entertain it. So best not tar me with the same brush as your partners Ex 😊

It might just be to avoid temptation. I once blocked a bf's ex because she was very pretty and I knew I probably couldn't resist looking at her photos and comparing myself negatively. In this case, she might want to protect her mental health or just avoid having to deal with potential messages/social media connection with you in the future

As for the threatening messages you are regularly receiving. Have you spoken to anyone about this legally?

You really don't have to accept it from him. There are steps that can be taken, and I understand how anxious this makes you feel because of the believe things will escalate.

GingerBread, local DV unit, Womans Aid etc are all there to help you and your child.

Can I also recommend the Freedom Program
www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/

My ex’s girlfriend blocked me when they started dating. We had been together for 4 years but this was 4/5 years AFTER we split. I also went to school with her. She still has me blocked now and we’ve been split for like 15 years, they’re married and I was supposed to be married (covid) and live the other end of the country. It’s fun living rent free in someone’s head tbh it just makes me laugh.

@canigooutyet

Have you tried peer support op? I have personally found this more beneficial than talking therapies.

When I first used it, I was honest with the "match maker" and said I have no idea what I need support with, depends what comes up at the time.

My peer support person was amazing, and we would generally chat about whatever shit I wanted to at the time. They themselves had similar issues to myself so had the been through and understood where I was coming from.

Also found out loads more from them about local services.

I actually love the sound of that... but would feel awkward if people I knew were there!! 🙈

@Anyoldname12

My ex’s girlfriend blocked me when they started dating. We had been together for 4 years but this was 4/5 years AFTER we split. I also went to school with her. She still has me blocked now and we’ve been split for like 15 years, they’re married and I was supposed to be married (covid) and live the other end of the country. It’s fun living rent free in someone’s head tbh it just makes me laugh.

That is odd isn't it! This is what also puzzled me, because my ex has had another relationship since we split in 2019 prior to my sons birth. So this isn't his first relationship since we split. His last girlfriend funnily enough he cheated on me with during pregnancy, and I didn't bother them once 🤷🏼‍♀️ left them to it, no drama. Was too busy bringing up my son. So seems odd that this new girlfriend has felt the need to block me. But this thread has helped a lot to see it from her point of view! 🙂

Could your ex have blocked you on her profile without her knowledge, to stop her from finding you or getting funny about you being on his friends list?

I have blocked people before after nosing at their social media and then panicking that they would somehow know. I don't think that it is unusual to look at XP's social media, their new partners, or new partners ex partners. I always do it.

@HPmummy19 It's all 1-2-1 and doesn't have to be in person.

There's also some amazing free apps for anxiety. We've used Mindshift CBT, Headspace and 7 cups.

When I met my boyfriend i blocked his ex and children. He has an unusual in surname so it was easily done.

It was not based on any assumptions I had made about any of them - I had never met them as we were only a couple of dates in.

I didn't want to be tempted to look up the ex and I didn't want the children to look me up with their friends.