Ex boyfriends new partner blocked me?

[HPmummy19]

Hello!
Just a general wondering really and wanted to hear people's thoughts on it.
My exP, also the father of my son, has a new girlfriend (not completely sure they are official but they are seeing eachother). I don't know the girl personally but know they've been seeing eachother for a month or two. Anyway, I've never bothered them, I don't even talk to my ex as he is an absolute tool and disowned my son so why the hell would I want anything to do with him, but funnily enough noticed she has blocked me on Facebook and Instagram? I know this because I was with a friend who brought my ex up in conversation (asking if he has asked about his son lately) and we were on the subject of him having a new partner and she could find her social media accounts but I couldn't?
I personally found it very random and instantly was a bit offended as I can only take from that that my exP has painted me in a terrible light, most likely said I'm a crazy bitch that is going to contact her? God knows 😂
Just wondered what people's opinions were on why she might have blocked me?
I know it's probably not that deep and I am thinking too much into it. Unfortunately my depression and anxiety lead me to over analyse every situation in my life 🤦🏼‍♀️ hence why I've turned to Mumsnet to vent!

To all the people saying why do I care "do you still have feelings for him". For your information, I am still very scarred at what he put me and my 1 year old son through and I am bringing my baby (exP child) up on my own, with him living just round the corner but neglecting his child, so if it helps to have context, yes I am still scarred unfortunately. And because he doesn't want to admit to people he disowned his son and has never contributed to his upbringing he lies and says I stop contact.

Does that make me a bad person for coming to Mumsnet to ask an opinion on why my exP new partners blocked me? It is hurtful that my exP tells vicious lies about me and this is probably another person believing his lies, but I suppose I shouldn't take it so personally.
Bloody Nora I've been made to feel like an awful person and now a bit embarrassed for doing ONE search on his new partner and posting on Mumsnet, I should of kept this to myself🤦🏼‍♀️ 😳😖

I think it's quite wise sometimes, if I'm honest. For example, I blocked my ex's new partner because I was gutted by our split and I didn't want either him or her popping up in suggested friends etc. It'll be because of nothing you've done, just that she doesn't want you popping up - I think that's absolutely fine!

He's out of your life.

I blocked my current DP's ex (split quite a while before I even met him!!) on Insta and Facebook as she got a bit psycho sending him screenshots of my profile picture (me and him at a restaurant) with the caption 'this should be me'. We were just like o..kaaaay and both blocked her haha. Because it was her who ended things, it upset him, and she has no right to come out of the woodwork and try to ruin the happiness he's managed to find.

What are you doing to get help with your compulsive thoughts and anxiety? I’m sorry to hear you’re ill.

I think focusing on getting better is key. Why she blocked you or what he has said is really irrelevant.

I really doubt that’s the reason why she blocked you tbh.

@Givemeabreak88 hi sorry what part are you referring to "I doubt that's why she blocked you?" 🙂

OP, there's nothing wrong about being curious as to why someone blocked you. My sister-in-law blocked me but we've barely had a conversation, ever! What I put it down to is my brother who I don't get along with painted me in a bad light. In your case, your ex has more than likely done the same.

What to make of it? Well, I'm of the view that I make up my own mind about someone based on what I see/experience, not what others tell me. It says a whole lot about someone who make judgments from what they're told, it's ignorance. Hold your head up high.

@Bluntness100 hi I have been on citalopram for many years and actually a lot better nowadays But unfortunately as I said with still being scarred by what happened over the last 2 years of continuous abuse from exP it does still affect me very much. I would love counselling tbh as speaking my thoughts out load helps unload my brain massively, hence turning to Mumsnet x

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Thanks for your replies. Actually it wasn't a case of "giggling with my friend" and stalking her? I have never searched the girl before, and obviously my original post lacks context but I have received abuse left right and centre from my ex and still do. I ignore all of this and know he spreads lies about me regarding his son and why he doesn't have contact. The night I "stalked her" as you have said is funnily enough one of the nights my exP gave me abuse as I opened a CSA claim against him as he has never contributed towards my son. My friend and I were discussing this as I wanted her advice and his new partner came up in conversation, is that a crime? I think it is very silly and ignorant to claim that that topic of conversation would ever come up, it's no big deal?
And ironically, the girl has obviously "stalked" or searched me first to even block me? 😂 I was only after some other point of views, as I previously stated my anxiety leads me to over think every situation and it just played on my mind that this is yet another person my ex has told lies to about me. That's all. Wow didn't expect people to lay into me so much?[/quote]
You’re asking why she would block you, people are explaining why, I.e she doesn’t want you looking at her profile. You then moan and say it isn’t that, you seem really bothered by it.

Perhaps you are friends with some of her friends (or your partner obviously), so your name came up as a suggested new friend? Then when she clicked on it and saw who you were she chose the "block" option rather than the "add friend" option, so she wouldn't have to keep seeing your posts?

I have no idea what my exh does on FB as I blocked him long ago. Would also not be interested in searching for his new girlfriends. Just sounds like self-torture to me. I really don't get why people do this type of thing to themselves. Sure, you have some feeling of morbid curiosity, but isn't the urge to avoid pain stronger?

@savethewales where did I moan and say "that isn't why she blocked me"? I was merely responding to the person that said I was stalking her and "giggling" about her to my friend. So I painted a clearer picture and gave context to the situation. I am fully appreciative of any comments giving insight as to why she may have blocked me, so I'm afraid you have misinterpreted my response there :)

there are tons of reasons maybe he snuck on her phone and blocked you so she cant contact you? maybe she is a weirdo that might be tempted to give you agro. maybe he has told her you are a loon and she blocked you, maybe its a glitch who knows! i wouldn't give it any head space

Well tbh in your post you was doing laughing emojis like you found it funny then as soon as the comments didn’t go the way you wanted you started throwing out that he was abusive to try to make people feel bad like we are suppose to guess when you didn’t mention that in your op. Sounds like you are not happy he has moved on.

Thank you to all the constructive comments and insights on what my original post was asking - I fully appreciate it and it's helped me massively to get people's thoughts and empty my head! 🙂 don't know about anyone else - but I am someone who needs to say things out loud and benefit from others opinions/explanations, living on my own with a wee baba and spending most of the year in lockdown as most are doing is pretty lonely so very thankful to have Mumsnet to turn to as an anonymous person! So thank you for the constructive comments :) xx

Social media has created such a minefield...

Frankly I would not pay any attention to what she does or does not do.

Your ex has probably told her you are crazy/nasty piece of work and she probably checked out your profile and then blocked you. It is amazing how many guys will talk about their 'psycho ex' to their new partner when they usually are the ones who behaved appallingly...For me it is always a red flag when a man does that.

It sounds like you are better off without worrying about either of them.

As for the people who are criticising you, frankly who hasn't checked their ex social media profiles or had a sneaky peek at their new partner's? If a profile is public I don't see any issue with looking.

So you're nosey - and frustrated because you can't be nosey? I've been in a situation where the ex wife was so interested in my life it was exhausting. It's her social media account, to do with as she pleases. Leave the woman alone

@Givemeabreak88 ey? Okay then... 🤨 I used a laughing face after "god knows", because god knows what he says about me? I use emojis a lot in my text, sorry if that wasn't appropriate placement. Tried to make people feel bad for me? I have come to this forum for people's thoughts on MY PERSONAL circumstances and asked their opinion on my exP partner blocking me, how is explaining my personal circumstances a tool to make people feel bad? Smh 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️
Anyway, I'm not having an argument with an anonymous person on the internet, there really is no need... thanks for your input anyway.

I blocked my ex new girlfriend because he is an abusive nobhead and his new girlfriend is from a family that is a bit scummy. I dont want them passing my photo around and knowing what me and my family look like.

I have DHs ex-W blocked, have done since we met. Nothing against her personally just knew she would be likely to snoop and didn't want her having any information about me that could potentially be used in an argument with DH (of which there were many when she found out he'd met someone else!). If your relationship with your ex is difficult, I think she's been very sensible to block you, I never fully trust the privacy settings on SM, perhaps she doesn't either. There is absolutely no reason for you to need access to her SM profiles.

I can see why she blocked you tbh.

@Givemeabreak88 okay then...
All of your comments have been unhelpful and weirdly argumentative, surely against what this forum stands for, why don't you go and be helpful on a different thread? 🙂

@HPmummy19 why should people agree with you when you are in the wrong?

I blocked my dps ex after I seen a foolish message she sent to dp. Purposely trying to bring me in to a situation I didn't need to be in.
Guess what she got her dp to search me up instead, and he liked one of my pictures of my ds.

And I told her straight that I'm dating dp and not interested in her drama or their dc. It was earlier days. Not my fault that she brought her dp around the dc after two weeks.

I then blocked her whole family and close friends. I don't need to be receiving stupidity when she's in a bad mood, if at any point she wanted to communicate with me as an adult, then fine but you want to be sneaky you have to work harder at that 😂

[quote unicornsnowflakes]@HPmummy19 why should people agree with you when you are in the wrong?

I blocked my dps ex after I seen a foolish message she sent to dp. Purposely trying to bring me in to a situation I didn't need to be in.
Guess what she got her dp to search me up instead, and he liked one of my pictures of my ds.

And I told her straight that I'm dating dp and not interested in her drama or their dc. It was earlier days. Not my fault that she brought her dp around the dc after two weeks.

I then blocked her whole family and close friends. I don't need to be receiving stupidity when she's in a bad mood, if at any point she wanted to communicate with me as an adult, then fine but you want to be sneaky you have to work harder at that 😂[/quote]
Sorry I'm confused by the first line, what am I in the wrong about?
I agree in your circumstances, must have been annoying for you, I would also have no reason to contact my exP or his partners, just curious as to why she blocked me straight off the bat but maybe she wanted to stop a situation like that happening! :) luckily I'm quite the opposite and keep myself to myself. Thank you for sharing your experience

I'm not sure why some posters are being so argumentative? If you want to argue like this, you should go onto AIBU. This is the Relationships board where posters look for support.

The OP has said that she has anxiety and overthinks things, she said that in the opening post so it wasn't a drip-feed.

Don't waste too much brain space on what he has and hasn't told her about you. She will find out what he is like for herself soon enough.

Perfectly natural for you to be curious, especially if she’s likely to around your son at some point. She sounds petty and she’s aware of you, probably a blessing in disguise to not be able to see her SM.