Boyfriend was texting ex last night,would you mind?

[wizzardchristmass]

Boyfriend of 7 months was over last night.
(He is in my bubble)
We were just chilling out,we were listening to music.
It was after midnight and I noticed he was on his phone.
I asked who he was messaging,he said just a mate.
He went to the toilet and his phone flashed up.
It was his ex.
I asked him why he was messaging her.
He said a song popped on that reminded him of her so he sent her a screenshot of it and asked if she still liked them ???
Would this bother you?
It's the fact he was with me yet going down memory Lane with her.

@wizzardchristmass probably but my partner is there with me and included in the memory sharing.

Definitely get rid!

I honestly don't know how he thought that was appropriate to do.
I've had a rubbish day over thinking today
It's shit to think he was thinking of another woman whilst I was in the same room.

And then he lied to you about it. An ex is not a friend.

I know it's an obvious answer but why didn't he just block her totally out of his life?
He is wanting some sort of interaction still isn't he?

Matey boy is still hung up on her.
Even if not, I wouldn't like my bf of 7 months texting the ex right next to me with a memory. That's very disrespectful and sneaky. He has very little regard to you.

If that's what sneaky stuff it gets up to whilst you're with him, I'd be wondering wtf he's up to when you're not with him.

There's thinking about someone occasionally or being reminded of them by a piece of music, and then there's acting on it. He's acting on it and keeping things going with her, which is inappropriate. He's not fully with you and keeping his options open. I'd ditch him.

I'm actually shocked I didn't get anyone telling me I was being ridiculous and ott.
I think I kind of hoped someone would.

I'd dump him tbh.

Get rid OP...

He clearly likes playing games with women and is an accomplished liar.

He's obviously still wanting contact with her and he doesn't want you to know. He's lied to you, what else is he telling lies about? If it was innocent he wouldn't lie. Leave him.

7 months in, you deserve better

This will likely be a shock as I'm sure you didn't expect it, and are likely blindsided by this revelation.

His actions reveal all you need to know about how he really feels. He does still have feelings for her. 7 months of being with you haven't changed what he still feels for her, so this isn't the right relationship for either of you.

He might like you, be attracted to you, have a great time with you - but at this stage he should be completely smitten with you, where he isn't thinking of anyone else. Certainly not when he's spending a night with you! He can't help his feelings but it's crap he hasn't ended it with you. Don't wait for him to end it and go back to her, or worse, know he settled for you.

Walk away. He's not ready yet for a new relationship. And you can't make him be ready.