Name changed for obvious reasons.
My OH and I have been together 14 years. We used to have a good sex life. I can't quite remember when things changed.
My problem is he basically just seems to want oral sex. He doesn't seem interested in me. He does initiate PIV too slightly less often and always the next days after his oral (see working away) but it's unimaginative and I don't know if I'm reading too much into it, he does seem to enjoy it, but it feels to me like he's just doing it as it's an expected part of a relationship.
He works away for a couple of weeks at a time and literally all he talks about in a relationship kind of way is how much he's looking forward to a blow job 
. He never says I miss you, I want to hug, I miss your body, I want to do anything to you. Never. It's just focussed on the blow job.
I've tried talking about it. I'm sick of talking about it. He just maintains I'm overthinking it and he does want me blah blah blah. I don't know if I believe it.
I'm beginning to get resentful.
What do I do. I don't think I can leave over that, he does show me he loves me in small other ways, but I have needs too and need more. I'm nearing mid 30s and feel like if I stay I'll always just be feeling rejected. I feel like an ogre. He denies anything is wrong and says I'm just making stuff up..