Lovely little things your partner does

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Mine fills up my hot water bottle for me and constantly gives me back rubs when I’m in pain.eg last night at 3 in the morning I woke up in pain he rubbed my back until I fell asleep. He also knows I’m a weakling and always carry’s the shopping upstairs for me. Yesterday the the car was full and I was having a pain attack almost being sick in the car he took me inside let me lay down while he took all the bags in the ran me a bath. I don’t no what I would do with out him.

in the olden days (pre covid) when I went into the office DH used to get up early on winter mornings to scrape my car windscreen for me, as he knows I hate doing it

Mine gets up half an hour earlier than he needs to take me into work.
And brings me chocolate when he goes shopping. And assumes sole responsibility for the cat’s litter tray.

This past week dh has tirelessly covered our house in fairy lights. And set timers and does all the switching on /off..

I usually have the car at work but he needed it to be somewhere so he brought an umbrella to work for me on Saturday when I would of had to walk home in heavy rain, he also defrosts the car for me, brings me things from the shop even though I say I don't want anything and always offers to run my baths. He's very thoughtful and I'm very lucky ☺💕

Wakes up early with DD whenever he isn’t at work and does dinner bath and bed if he makes it home on time and tells me to go and rest.

buys me chocolates that he thinks I will like.

Makes notes of things I say I like or want throughout the year so always gets me lovely presents.

also never onces raises his voice if we have a disagreement and always remains respectful and im being loud or bitchy and he never goes to bed letting me be angry at him (which is very rare)

Taken 18 years but he now brings me coffee in bed every morning 😍

This is such a well-timed thread! Mine is a grumpy old grouch sometimes but he does such a lot to look after me: if I'm going on a long journey he checks my windscreen wash and tyre pressures; he scrapes my car windows if it's frosty; he buys me treats when he goes shopping; changes his work schedule to accommodate mine and DCs convenience and is generally a very kind and loving partner and father. It's nice to have a thread to recognise this, thanks OP!

He's just told me to go and lie down, rest, and choose a takeaway while he feeds the baby as I've been unwell. Don't know what I'd do without him.

are there partners who actually do these types of things? seems like a parallel universe to me. (left a very abusive marriage and grew up in an abusive home so abuse is "normal" to me) and i struggle to believe there are men who can be nice. since being single and trying to online date men are very much not nice

Absolutely loads of things. Brings me drinks, cooks and cleans up most evenings. Would give me or the kids his last penny. He’s too good really.

@yummytummy, I grew up in a home where abuse was the norm too. My husband was raised right and I am reaping the benefits. His own dad is a fabulous man who does everything for his family.

He cooks every night and brings tea when I get home from work.

@yummytummy

are there partners who actually do these types of things? seems like a parallel universe to me. (left a very abusive marriage and grew up in an abusive home so abuse is "normal" to me) and i struggle to believe there are men who can be nice. since being single and trying to online date men are very much not nice

Yes, there really are.

This thread gives you an idea of what kind of man you should be aiming for; and clues on how to spot one

My dh does everything since I’ve been unwell. Absolutely everything and never moans about it. Cooking, shopping, washing, homework with the children and gets me hot water bottles too. I know how lucky I am.

Brings me coffee in bed every morning, twice (I send him a text to let him know I’m ready for my second ).

When he went out to work at 6.30 am he’d always de ice my car for me —and leave a love heart I cleared—.

A few times has made me a mix tape (cd) and put it in my car so it comes on when I start the engine.

Makes me coffees throughout the day if I’m at home now he’s WFH. I make his lunch in return.

Does all the taxi service for the teenagers because I hate it —and I’ve usually had wine in the evenings—.

He’s a good un.

Gosh, so many. Brings me chocolate when I’m on my period without being asked. Surprises me with a Starbucks when he can hear I’m having a frustrating work day. Now I’m pregnant, he sleeps in the (uncomfortable) spare bed, with an alarm set for 5.30 so he can be up to deal with the kids first thing without them waking me. Neck rubs on tap. I can’t remember the last time I had to empty the bins or sort the cat litter or put petrol in the car. Tells me I’m gorgeous, even though I’m definitely not, being overweight AND pregnant. He’s a superstar and I’m very lucky after 13 years together.

Oh they were meant to be wildly humorous cross outs but you get the gist.

Mine comes up to bed with me until I fall asleep then he goes back down to play with his new Lego car thingy he bought
I’m an lark and he’s an owl so it works for us
Every payday he buys me flowers-I choose them but he pays
He picks me up from work if I’m on a late

Mine also brings me a hot water bottle every night, and brings up a bottle of fridge water for me. He gives me foot rubs of an evening and sometimes will run me a bath. On Saturday morning he walked to the corner shop and bought me a sausage and bacon baguette 😃

These are all so lovely. Mine is a good guy but more interested in his phone than me.

So so many little things, but my favourite thing happens every day and he probably doesn’t realise it. He makes me laugh... everyday.

I rarely make a cup of tea , dh is the tea maker in this house.
He also gets up before me and makes my cafetiere of coffee.
He puts out the bins , and sorts out the recycling.

Drives me to and from work. Takes me to the beach when l want to go. Coffee in bed, runs me baths, picks up my favourite chocolates when hes at the shop

Sorry to all those who have had abusive relationships. There really are decent men out there.
Mine isn’t perfect but he makes me coffee every morning and tells me to go out and see my friends or go off on my own somewhere when he sees I need to as he’s a homebody and I’m not.
Once he bought me flights so I could be with my sister while he took time off work and looked after dc. It meant a lot.
I work part time and on my days off, he always asks me what I’ve done that day and waits to hear stories of whatever fun and exciting thing I’ve done (he never expects me to stay in and do chores but I do as much of them anyway)

Brings me a coffee in bed every morning
Defrosts the car when needed
Tells me he loves me/ fancies me/ I’m gorgeous every day
Helped me get out of bed/ get dressed for a week after I had an accident.
He really is wonderful and I know I am very lucky.
But yes, there are some great men out there (and lots of shits, I know 😞)