Was he out of order?

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Took my bestie to meet my new bloke. That eve he said to her she is a stunner, she gorgeous, lovely big boobs, joked about us all having a 3some. That eve i got a few "she's a hottie" mentions from him about me and he was like "come and sit on my lap" and "kiss me".
Im fuming - am I over reacting?

Urgh that's massively inappropriate. I'd pop him in the bin, pronto.

No. He's horrible.
You'll get a lot more of similar from him in the future. Either because he only sees women as sex objects there for his own gratification or because he wants you to feel like you arent 'enough' for him.

Bin and run. No more red flags needs with this one.

Absolutely awful. What a pig.

Who was he asking to sit on his lap?

Absolutely not! I’d run for the hills. You could never trust a guy like that.

Well, at least you know he's a complete asshole early on.

Why are you asking if he's out of order? Don't you know that's unacceptable behaviour yourself?

Dump the fucker already.

Wanted me to sit on his lap, kiss him, hands all over me. BUT to my friend he was saying "she's gorgeous mate a real stunner" as she was on the phone to her man that she chats to on line but not yet met. Before the "sit on my lap" ask i had moved to sit opposite him and my friend at the other side of the room, I felt like a spare part

How long have you been together?

@GingerBreadNurse 8 weeks

That’s vile!

Honestly make the new bloke an ex bloke

Is this really how you think a relationship should be? Do you want to be so poorly valued that he treats your friends as potential shags?

If he’s like this now, when he’s ‘new’ and supposedly in honeymoon phase etc, how about down the line, when you’re totally isolated and anxious about seeing friends in case he wants to shag then... or acts on it?

I also think this could be a test, if you allow this in any way, he’ll do something worse next time

Love, you’re worth so much more than this.

Yeah you should dump. He’s hoping to see what he can get away with at this point that you’ll tolerate. If you stay then he will continue to push boundaries.

He was trying to instigate threes on right there with the sit on my lap shit.

Please love, text him now and say you and he aren’t suited after all and you won’t be seeing him again

After 8 weeks you’re seeing who he is and it’s really ugly

I’ve got bottles of shampoo for longer than 8 weeks, honestly don’t think twice about this

This is exactly how you deal with creeps.

It gets easier the more you do it. Zero tolerance

((((Hug))))

Dump immediately and be thankful he gave you such a great heads up on what a vile twatty sleazebag he is early on.

Bleurgh imagine sitting there watching this skank pant and leer all over you both - get fucking rid!! BLOCK.

Blimey, get rid of this loser, OP, or it'll be this forever. i would text him now. What the hell was he thinking?!

When you said you felt like a spare part, what was your friend's response? Anything other than discouragement/ awkwardness and I would be having a think about her too.

get rid :S Thats creepy and if i was your friend i would be thinking what kind of men are you into

Wait op. You've just added a totally different context.

He was obviously telling the guy (that your friend is dating and hasn't met) that your friend is a stunner. Thats not the same thing as telling you.

I mean the threesome comment was cringe but op your original post missed some key points that sorta change things.

8 weeks??
I hope he's an ex now!!

@bunnymummy - he said it before she was on the phone call and during. I have never been made to feel so shit and put down in all my life. He did call me over to sit on his lap, he said to kiss him lots of times, he caressed me ...but .... I can't help how i felt from what he was saying to my friend

Ah right yeah then back to the original agreement that his behaviour isnt on then.

Sounds like he wanted you to feel bad op. You're worth more than this, tell him where to go.

Dump him. Now. He is a wanker. Why would you choose to stay with a wanker?

I'm obsessed with him. I hardly know him after only 8 weeks, why am I so obsessed ? I've not heard from him today yet still I desperately want to message him but I don't know why

Fucking hell, get some self respect and dump him

Or you will be back in a few months, asking if him messaging other girls is appropriate

You are in control of you.

This guy is bad news, he humiliated you and he will not make you happy.

Message him and break up with him, then delete and block him everywhere.

The obsession will subside.

Did you post a couple of weeks ago saying he made a joke about wanting a threeaome with your friend?

Scrape the shit off your shoe and move on.

Vile.

Did he 'love bomb" you in the beginning? That can cause an intense connection to form quickly. But it's built on sand.

The thing is op, a lesson you'll learn as you age is that self respect absolutely has to come before everything else. Anything that threatens your happiness in who you are and self love (even if they have a cute face and a nice ass) has to go.

In didn't post earlier about a 3some @closebeanmuncher
@bunnymumy no lovebombing, Ive chased him mostly. Sick of it. V v tempted to message him tonight but im not going to. He hasn't messaged me after last night. I would do anything to message him right now but I have to hold off. I want to cry but I can't, I want to bawl my eyes out but the tears aren't coming. Im supposed to be seeing him in the week im just not gonna turn up