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Was he out of order?

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bloggerbloggerblog · 06/12/2020 08:19

Took my bestie to meet my new bloke. That eve he said to her she is a stunner, she gorgeous, lovely big boobs, joked about us all having a 3some. That eve i got a few "she's a hottie" mentions from him about me and he was like "come and sit on my lap" and "kiss me".
Im fuming - am I over reacting?

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Bunnymumy · 06/12/2020 20:28

Sorry you're going through this op. Could you just put your phone in a drawer somewhere most of the time so you dont keep looking at it/being tempted?

Get yourself as much rest as possible too. Everything's harder when your tired. Especially in the dark evenings lately.

Maybe if you feel strong enough on the day you could message him and tell him that it just isnt working for you. You dont need to get into the whys. If you end it and block him then you'll feel like at least you took charge of the situation.

Good luck. Be kind to yourself!

Dery · 06/12/2020 20:31

“The thing is op, a lesson you'll learn as you age is that self respect absolutely has to come before everything else. Anything that threatens your happiness in who you are and self love (even if they have a cute face and a nice ass) has to go.”

This with bells on.

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bloggerbloggerblog · 06/12/2020 20:45

I know what I need to.do. I feel like I'm being strung along and/or used for sex. We slept together first time then I never heard from him for a while. I brought it up and he said yes he could understand how I felt like I was used for sex .. so if he knew I'd feel that way then why not do something about it.
This is going to be a hard one to let go. Why dors it hurt so much. Im sure he isn't thinking about me like this, he's enjoying himself with goodness knows whoever

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DianeChambers · 06/12/2020 22:38

This is going to be a hard one to let go

It should be easy aa it is a very new relationship and he is awful.

You need to spend some time Working on your boundaries and learning what a healthy relationship looks like.

ChickensMightFly · 06/12/2020 22:43

Urgh. Nothing you have said about him says he is anything other than a shallow dickhead. Find your spine and walk away tall.

Fefifofaff · 06/12/2020 22:53

It doesn't seem that complicated to me. Dump him, block him and keep your self respect. Or keep chasing him and be miserable. So?

blahblahblaaa · 07/12/2020 01:59

You're obsessed with a guy who wants to sleep with your friend? What's gotten into you?

Sunflower1970 · 07/12/2020 03:09

I can imagine you coming back on here asking for advice in 6 months time. He is an inappropriate, flirty, disrespectful wanker. Get rid immediately

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