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What would you make of this

96 replies

Usernameden · 28/11/2020 14:37

What would you make of this?
Husband takes the dog on an uncharacteristically early walk without waking wife. Soon after, wife wakes and decides to run to the park thinking that she might meet them on their return. Wife meets husband and dog on their return stretch of the park. On turning around to join husband on the return journey, wife sees a couple in the far distance, exiting the area. The woman of the couple is a woman who the wife has previously suspected her husband of having an affair with. The man of the couple is this OW's husband. While walking away, OW looks around once directly at husband, dog, and wife, turns her head back, then immediately turns to look again and holds the stare for a few seconds. OW's husband is walking alongside her but does not look back.
Wife continues her conversation with husband, pretending not to have seen the other couple.

OP posts:
Bluntness100 · 28/11/2020 15:13

Can’t believe folks are egging the op on, 😱

AnyFucker · 28/11/2020 15:16
Confused
Ughmaybenot · 28/11/2020 15:16

This is all very weird. Very, very weird. You sound completely paranoid with your threesome assumption. I rather think if that was the plan, they’d not choose a cold park at 5am.
It’s also pretty unlikely that both partners coincidentally scuppered a secret meeting between your husband and the ‘OW’. Not impossible I suppose, but unlikely imo.
Maybe your husband knows that the woman and her husband walk together at that time and was hoping to see her, maybe it’s pure coincidence that the other couple were in the park, who knows.
I think, sadly, with this level of mistrust and paranoia, your marriage is dead.

Cavagirl · 28/11/2020 15:16

5.30-6am?? That is a coincidence indeed...
How did your DH seem when you bumped into him?
Maybe you need to teach your dog to talk like that woman on instagram

Diverseduvet · 28/11/2020 15:16

I think he arranged to meet the OW, said woman tells her unsuspecting husband she's going for a walk/run, he offers to join her and she can't say no.

TwentyViginti · 28/11/2020 15:16

@MargeProopsSpecs

Dogging?
Yes, OP's DH had a dog with him.
Pechanga · 28/11/2020 15:22

I think OW was planning on meeting your DH in park, but her DH decided to join her for some reason (maybe he got suspicious), she had no option but to allow her DH to tag along.

I think the long look at you was the realisation that not only is her DH onto them but so are you.

Mrsmummy90 · 28/11/2020 15:23

Usually in posts like these, it always seems that there's something going on but in this instance, I have to say that it sounds like you're looking for trouble that isn't there.
I'm sorry but have you I'd trust issues in the relationship before?

AnyFucker · 28/11/2020 15:25

Was this recent ? It's still pitch black at 5:30-6am. Nobody was "looking" at anybody.

CarolVordermansBum · 28/11/2020 15:29

Does your husband usually go out at that time or was it completely out of character?

3rdNamechange · 28/11/2020 15:29

My first thought - like the post above - was that they are in some strange threesome. Having checked out the OW's husband on social media, I have discounted this.

Confused** what? Do you think he'd advertise it on Facebook ?

Hesfamousforit · 28/11/2020 15:37

Maybe the man wanted to know what had been going on with your dh and his dw and your dh didn't want you to find out.

affor · 28/11/2020 15:40

To be fair to the OP. 6am in the park was often where I met my AP when 'on a run'.

The coincidence of everyone being there at that time is odd. But I agree with a PP that surely it's too dark to see anything?

Is it normal for him to get up that early and walk the dog OP?

Bluntness100 · 28/11/2020 15:41

@Pechanga

I think OW was planning on meeting your DH in park, but her DH decided to join her for some reason (maybe he got suspicious), she had no option but to allow her DH to tag along.

I think the long look at you was the realisation that not only is her DH onto them but so are you.

Lol. It’s not a whodunnit you know. Where you get a prize for outrageous suggestions.😂
Groovinpeanut · 28/11/2020 15:48

So because your husband lent someone a phone? Plus let them share an iTunes account?
You think he's having an affair? Possibly a threesome? Added to which you've resorted to stalking Facebook for clues?

OP this is just bizarre 😳

littlebirdieblue · 28/11/2020 15:54

But it's so dark still at 5.30-6am, how could you see anyone looking directly at you? Hmmm

HollowTalk · 28/11/2020 16:02

@Diverseduvet

I think he arranged to meet the OW, said woman tells her unsuspecting husband she's going for a walk/run, he offers to join her and she can't say no.
While I think all of this sounds suspicious, if I were the OW then I would take my husband on a walk somewhere completely different.
LilyLongJohn · 28/11/2020 16:07

Dogging??

MrsGrindah · 28/11/2020 16:12

I think this is a scene out of Midsommer Murders. OP was moody music playing in the background?

LilyLongJohn · 28/11/2020 16:15
KinseyWinsey · 28/11/2020 16:22

You must have more reason than the lending of a mobile 'phone to suspect your dh of having an affair.

Has he had one before?

Do you have real and concrete reason not to trust him or are you always suspicious?

It is a bit rum that he takes the dog out so early all of a sudden and even more rum that this woman is out so early too.

I'd just keep my ear to the ground. Or just cut my losses and bin him if I really thought he was having an affair.

HopeAndDriftWood · 28/11/2020 16:27

You genuinely think your husband met with his OW and her husband for secret threesomes?

Added to the evidence of his affair being that he leant her a phone and logged into his iTunes for her... are you feeling alright overall? In a genuinely caring way, are you having any other disordered thinking? None of that seems at all likely.

user1745632169 · 28/11/2020 16:30

But it's so dark still at 5.30-6am, how could you see anyone looking directly at you? Hmmm

Paranoia. Imagination. Wild exaggeration.

SarahBellam · 28/11/2020 16:40

I think he’s having an affair with the husband, the OW found out so he lent her a phone and iTunes account to placate and distract her and they were meeting in the park so she could complain about his taste in music.

JillofTrades · 28/11/2020 16:41

Could it be that the husband has found out something between them and your husband tried to meet with them before it got to you? The only believable excuse would be a dog walk.
But given its so early in the morning, and if they needed to keep the husband sweet surely the other man wouldn't be pleased with the time.

Or it could be they innocently bumped into him and she looked back at you surprised to see you there out of the blue? The husband didn't turn back because absolutely nothing went on.