Is this strange?

[Ilovedacake]

Just had a few thoughts about a recent ex and was curious as to whether some of his ideas were a bit strange, or whether they’re usual to others and I just haven’t heard of them. When we lived together, we didn’t have a bin, as he believed they were dirty, so rubbish was put in carrier bags, hung on a cupboard door handle and put out in the wheelie bin a few times a day. He felt baby wipes didn’t clean properly, so our children used to have to be held under the sink and have their bottoms properly washed at every nappy change. He didn’t agree with dogs living inside, as they’re unhygienic, so he wanted my dog to live outside in a kennel and in the garage when the weather was colder. Does anyone else do these things, or are they unusual?

I had a relative who didn't like a bin in the house. Personally I thought the carrier bag thing was worse.

Did your dog end up outside?

Unusual. How on earth did you put up with it ?
I’d have put him outside in the kennel.

Please tell me your dog didn't have to live outside

It sounds over the top to me but I'm a slob! Thought I'd definitely prefer an easily washable bin to a carrier bag.

Yes to the carrier bag for rubbish at some point but not now. I'm not a big fan of bins and couldn't be bothered with the cleaning of a bin at the time. I'm not a huge dog person but wouldn't expect a dog used to the inside to be expected to be kept outside. Baby wipes were fine in this house and still are - baby wipe 'showers' also featured every now and then

Yeah, weird

I dont have a bin for exactly the same reason! I use a small carrier bag and just put it in the wheelie bin every evening. The other stuff definitely a bit ott though!

I agree with him on the baby wipes tbh.

Is your ex medical? I only ask because I recognise some of those behaviours in my late dad who was a doctor.

He was very very particular about the house and how it was kept but tbf to him he was the one who did everything. He did the carrier bag thing too.

We also had a dog which my mother bought without his knowledge. He was horrified at first and insisted the dog be returned, and when that wasn't an option, that it not be allowed indoors. Before long he was buying and cooking food for the dog and had built her a very elaborate indoor kennel! When my mum left, I used to hear df talking to the dog sometimes about how he was feeling. And strangely - I had a very detailed dream about the dog last night and she died over 30 years ago!

Sorry I digressed there a bit!

We don't have a kitchen bin, I don't think it's that unusual. We have three children aged 5 and under and the first one was obsessed with the bin, kept touching it and putting things in it, opening the lid etc. So we got rid of it and then had two more children so it has never been reinstated. Our wheelie bins are right outside the back door so we just put stuff straight into them or bag and bin stuff if it's messy things.

We do have a food waste thing under the sink.

The dog thing seems cruel though, I can't see the point of having a dog if you treat it like that.

I have OCD. Sounds like he does too.

Doesnt sound too outrageous to me. Is he English as my partner is foreign and finds it really weird that dogs are allowed inside the house and treated like family. Doesnt happen in his country.

No, not medical, he’s a tradesman. He had plenty of other fixed ideas, however the others I haven’t mentioned are definitely controlling, so didn’t mention those. He’s English, but one of his parents is European. The dog is inside!

I use wet wipes all the time, at work. And home. Not as good as washing your hands properly but they do a job.

Dog always inside, but I have a greek/German friend who finds it quite strange to have a dog inside, and treated as family as a pp has already said. I used to own a working dog, he lived inside when at home, slept in an indoor kennel I made but when not sleeping and I was home he was indoors. When out he was in an outdoor kennel.
A colleague of mine at the time kept both of his working dogs in outside kennels at all times.

As for the bin. I've used both and even with a bin I sometimes use the carrier bag on a door.

I'd say medics are the worst of all of them 😂 no way are they neat/clean freaks.
In fact it's a bit of a joke that kids of doctors need to be on deaths door to be taken to hospital

a recent ex

Glad he's an ex. The twat.

@Ardenon

I'd say medics are the worst of all of them 😂 no way are they neat/clean freaks. In fact it's a bit of a joke that kids of doctors need to be on deaths door to be taken to hospital

Well that bit is certainly true of my dad. I had stomach ache on holiday once when I was about 8. Got sent to bed early as I was obviously overtired. And ended up being airlifted to hospital with suspected appendicitis!

I think all those things are very strange (and keeping the dog outside just isn't nice), the only thing familiar to me is the rubbish bag on a doorknob which my DDad does - he doesn't like much rubbish in the kitchen for long so that makes sense. I'd prefer to have it out of sight though

We don't have an indoor bin as we have a dog that will just pee on it. Everything goes straight into black or blue bags and into bin storage outside as soon as full.

My mother didn't agree with the green food recycling bins that were collected every week. Said they attracted maggots. So she chucked all waste food straight into her black bags....to be collected once a fortnight. 🙄

@WitchOfTheWest

We don't have an indoor bin as we have a dog that will just pee on it. Everything goes straight into black or blue bags and into bin storage outside as soon as full.

My mother didn't agree with the green food recycling bins that were collected every week. Said they attracted maggots. So she chucked all waste food straight into her black bags....to be collected once a fortnight. 🙄

That’s exactly how I feel about the rubbish backs. I found it hard to understand how a bin with a lid was dirty and unhygienic, yet a carrier bag left on a door handle, open, wasn’t

*bags

We grew up on a farm and the farm dogs all lived outside, even through the winter. They had a bed/straw in the barns and were perfectly happy. Our dog lives indoors now, however!

They are common ideas you must be either sheltered or don't mix with many uk people.

Depends on the dog surely? If it's a husky it'll prefer outside.

Bum wash in sink is actually better than wipes.

Bin thing is a bit weird, but I've seen that before.

No, in some countries all of these things are "normal". Having a big bin in the house where everything goes into is definitely English /Anglo, I know I have never liked it and only use a small tun which gets bagged and emptied after every meal. I have used and worked around small carrier bags.

It's also not unusual in some countries to not use toilet paper but to only wash with a bidet, again this is considered cleaner than using a piece of paper.

It's also very, very common to not like animals in the house. None of these things are unusual, and I agree they are all cleaner way to live. It can be hard to use large bins and toilet paper if you are not used to it as it can feel "dirty".
No harm is caused by these things really, but if he can't live with it and it's personal to him, then not compatible with you.

The way you say had fixed ideas you made sound like something serious. These are habits and cultures people have different ways of doing things.