How long would you you wait after being blue ticked in a message

[murphys]

Met someone, can see now it was a one night thing. Although for the last month there have been frequent messages back and forth, but from his side, he was starting to take much longer to reply and not very chatty.

The last message I sent him was a week ago today, and he has blue ticked me, so not response since. It was in reply to a message he had sent me that day.

I don't want to be hasty in blocking etc, but I am thinking of deleting his number so that I am not tempted to message him again (not sure why, but I just clicked with him and have not been able to get him off my mind). If I delete his contact then my profile picture will disappear on his side as we use Whatsapp, so he will know I have done something.

Or is this a bit dramatic after a only a week?. I know he has been busy with work, which makes me think it could be this. We are in our 50s so not kids.

So just trying to get the feel of what the time frame is if you have been ghosted.....

You've been ghosted.
A week is plenty long enough, stop torturing yourself.

When you sent the message did you ask him any questions in return? If not, then I would perhaps send him a message asking how he is etc. If you then get no reply to an outright question, delete away.

Move on, don't lower yourself, do what Michelle Obama says

Yeah he's not replying. I wouldn't bother blocking and all that, just forget him and don't message him again. He's been a bit rude but unfortunately such is the modern way in dating, it's nothing personal, it's just what people seem to do.

Block him then delete the number. Then delete the message thead. Any other method is just kidding yourself youre moving on.

It’s been a week and he hasn't bothered to reply. Why would you be happy with that even if he did message tomorrow?

If you live close enough and haven't met again in a month, he's definitely not interested. Unless there's a super good reason, more than 2 weeks till a 2nd meet just isn't sustainable and shows a lack of enthusiasm generally. I'd say the writing was on the wall a while back unless it's a LDR. Now you've definitely been ghosted so delete away.

I don’t understand this need to block people. He’s not messaging or harassing, so why the need to block? Just move on.

A week is long enough.

Personally, I wouldnt do anything. Any action on your part (deleting/blocking) shows he was on your mind and you were bothered.

If you ignore him - just do nothing at all - yes you replied last so technically he has ghosted you but if you do nothing now you are showing equal ambivalence.

And ignore him if he gets in touch at a later date. No one has no time to send a message in a week. He's been for a shit in that time, he could have done it then!

Although given we’ve been in lockdown for the past month I don’t think at this point not having met is a red flag.

You met recently, we then went into lockdown. It’s not inconceivable that you didn’t meet again because we’ve been in lockdown.

The no messaging is another thing entirely, but I don’t consider not meeting up to be a definite at this point.

A week? It’s done.... sorry

@AlternativePerspective

I don’t understand this need to block people. He’s not messaging or harassing, so why the need to block? Just move on.

Agree. No need to block. Just delete message thread and number, if that will help you.

Just delete his messages and his number and move on. A week of no contact means he’s not interested in you.

I do agree with the blocking thing, it is a bit dramatic. That is why I was just thinking of deleting his number, but by doing this, my profile picture will disappear from his side, he will probably think I have blocked him.

Thanks all. I have now just archived him, as I don't want to come across as dramatic if he ever looks and my profile pic has disappeared, and he knows then that this has bothered me.

I mean is HAS bothered me, but I don't want him to know that.

I know its really petty but it has bothered me much more than I expected it to.

But yes, moving on with a bit of a bruise to the ego.....

Yeah just delete the conversation and his number and leave it there.
While I agree about not meeting up because of lockdown, if he hasn't had time to reply to you in a week then not much point worrying it.

Block him otherwise you'll get the "hi how are you" message in a couple of weeks and itll start all over again.

@louisejxxx

When you sent the message did you ask him any questions in return? If not, then I would perhaps send him a message asking how he is etc. If you then get no reply to an outright question, delete away.

Yes it was an open question, with no response.

Have so been ghosted.

I block, not to be dramatic. But because anyone who is so rude enough to not reply/ghost with no explanation does not deserve access to my number or life.

Who cares if he thinks you've been dramatic?! Do you think he cares how he comes across after ghosting you? You are upset by it and rightly so - do you really want your number being used every time he's bored or fancies a hook up? You block so he doesn't get in touch suddenly when he feels like it, sending you into a confused spiral to f what it all means.

You block so he doesn't get in touch suddenly when he feels like it, sending you into a confused spiral to f what it all means.

Or just laugh and think, "What a twat!" And ignore.

@AriesTheRam

Block him otherwise you'll get the "hi how are you" message in a couple of weeks and itll start all over again.

This is what I may have been waiting for, so that I can blue tick him back lol.

But I do realise that is very childish though.

Hasty?! Get some boundaries! You're feeling the need to post on a forum with your troubles in your one-date relationship. Doesn't this tell you he's not the guy for you? Doesn't this look like a big waving red flag?

Why do you think you're being dramatic? Why do you care what he thinks? Learn to allow yourself to recognise and meet your own needs before dating, or you're just going to get walked over again and again.

I discovered the archive button a while ago and was so pleased! I didn't want to delete/block this guy but I didn't want to see the messages every time I used WhatsApp either also I was worried I might call his number by mistake !

This is what I may have been waiting for, so that I can blue tick him back lol

But I do realise that is very childish though

Yup. Because it's your emotions on the line. So really it's not very 'lol' at all. You're already a bit hurt and you've only met him once.

Deleting a contact on your phone will not show up on his whatsapp? If you block him then yes as you say your profile picture is not visible to him anymore and you won't receive the messages he sends you.

@Eckhart

Hasty?! Get some boundaries! You're feeling the need to post on a forum with your troubles in your one-date relationship. Doesn't this tell you he's not the guy for you? Doesn't this look like a big waving red flag?

Why do you think you're being dramatic? Why do you care what he thinks? Learn to allow yourself to recognise and meet your own needs before dating, or you're just going to get walked over again and again.

Isn't this the point of a forum. To get other people's opinions?

No, I have never been ghosted before so it isn't like I am an expert on these things, so what is wrong with asking advice from others?

Read receipts on text messages are a bloody menace. I turned mine off along with the 'last online' feature (meaning I can't see anyone else's either) and have never looked back.