I have a 1 year old son with my partner. We met through a dating site so I did not know any of his friends or family. I have never met any of his friends. I met his family. When we first met I said "one day I would like kids" and I did say that I wanted to have kids with someone who had not had children before because I wanted it to be a special thing between me and that person.
I have found out, not through him, but an ex of his who contacted me that he has another child. I looked the person up and there are pictures of him holding this child with her. The child looks like him. I confronted my partner and he admitted it, but said he never thought it was his child. The child has bright blonde hair like him and looks like him. He was there for the birth and the first year of his life so he clearly thought it was his child. The child is 10 years old now!!! He doesnt support the child or see them and disappeared off the radar as far as she is concerned. Supposedly she has a rich partner and doesnt need his help but just wants money from him (this could be a lie). You cant see from Facebook if someone is rich or not so I dont know if this is true. But regardless if he is his son then he should want to know.
What hurts is that we have been together 2.5 years and this has come out only through finding out. I feel so angry as he deprived me of what I wanted. I am glad I had my son as he is a beautiful little boy and I love him with all my heart.
He has lied about other stuff too that has affected me but I dont want to get into that!
He told me he didn't tell me because he knew i wouldn't want him if he told me. So he kept it a secret all this time. But he never told any of his exes as the ex that told me said she found out from the mother of the child off of Facebook. I'm not on Facebook. She got my number through some avenue I dont really want to get into. He still wants me and is trying to get us back together. He said he will be my friend for years to come and wait until I trust him again. He doesnt care as long as he can be around me (Although this could all be a lie too to get me back). I still love him and care for him, but I'm torn up as I dont trust him anymore.
I dont know what to do. I have asked for some time to think, but he texts constantly and if I dont reply he accuses me of being with someone else like I'm the one to not be trusted. I have been loyal throughout.