Hi everyone, first time posting!
I’m looking for some advice.
I am currently 32 weeks pregnant with my second child.
My partner has been struggling with money for the last few months despite earning more than double what I earn. We each keep our finances separate but we both pay our way we pay 50/50 of all bills etc. That is until last month he was unable to pay his share and is unable to pay nearly a month later which is causing huge strain on my finances. He even had to borrow money out of our daughters savings to put petrol in his car.
I came across a credit card application whilst doing his laundry (left in his pocket) which in itself is a bit suspect. When I asked him about it and he said that it was for emergencies but I’m starting to think that it’s not. The APR is huge and I’m worried he’s going to drag us both into huge debt if he uses it and can’t pay.
I have quizzed him in regards to where the money has gone as we both have she same outgoings. He just says that he’s had a hard couple of months but offers no further explanation. I have bought all of the Christmas presents and we are pretty strict when it comes to buying for each other so I know he hasn’t overspent there.
I have reason to suspect that he is on onlyfans and I can’t help but fear that could be where his money is going.
Another thing is that he’s reluctant to send bank statements to our financial advisor and keeps putting it off. (We are due to remortgage) Again alarm bells are ringing!
I suppose my question is should I be worried or am I overthinking this?
How do I go about confronting him?
Sorry for the long post!