Do I tell my friend she's acting crazy after being dumped?

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A month ago my friends boyfriend of 4 years ended it.
He had been speaking to someone else.
Since then she's text him every day (he replies but doesn't initiate)
She's told him she could ruin his life if she told police about the time he slapped her a few years ago.
She's asking him questions daily why why
Sending him ranting texts
Yesterday he wasn't online all day on WhatsApp
She sent him text after text slagging him off
Asking why he hasn't been online all day and was he with the girl.
I've tried telling her that it's hard yes but he doesn't have to tell you anything.
I've told her to block him she won't.
She says they will be friends and she still wants to text him daily.
Do I tell her I think it's crazy ?

Buy a book and Have a spa day? Good old MN.

OP, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to sit your friend down and have a word with her about her unreasonable behaviour.

Where does it say he was abusive?

@Fudgsicles "lets victim blame because he's a bloke" where did I say that then?

And please, there's no need for rudeness have a word with yourself who the hell do you think you are? Clearly one very angry (dare I say it) woman

You could do so in a really sympathetic and supportive way.

People can be triggered into doing and acting in the strangest of ways when experiencing trauma. I witnessed my dh’s ex behave like a lunatic and she drove the majority of her friends away. Her behaviour ostracised herself from her family too. She lost everything.

Being a friendly ear won’t harm though.

@Pollypocket89

Original post said he slapped her a few years ago and threatened to call police.

Maybe it was worse than a slap.

[quote Itsallpointless]@Fudgsicles "lets victim blame because he's a bloke" where did I say that then?

And please, there's no need for rudeness have a word with yourself who the hell do you think you are? Clearly one very angry (dare I say it) woman

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I'm someone who called out your shitty advice. He's the victim in this abusive behaviour by this woman yet you turned on him by saying he had to take responsibility and block her. No he bloody well doesn't have to take responsibility for her appalling and illegal behaviour towards him. Hence victim blaming.

Yes tell her. Then just let her make her own mistakes. My friend is a bit like this but her ex is the same and I've long given up telling her anything because she just does what she wants anyway.

@Fudgsicles "called out your shitty advice"

If someone was doing that to me I would take control and block them, not respond, nor exacerbate their behaviour,

If the OP has a problem with my "shitty advice" fair enough..you need to take control of your own shitty behaviour!