Does you OH buy you flowers?

[EpochTime]

Just to satisfy my curiosity, please. Does your OH buy you flowers? My OH seems to think he's a prince among men for buying me flowers occasionally, as apparently not many men do this! From my experience, I'm convinced he's wrong!

[firesong]

You'll notice if he stops OP 😐 My boyfriend came to stay with me in lockdown and it changed from weekly flowers to once in 7 months! He did buy me lots of other things, some quite pricey, so I could hardly complain!

[Starlight39]

Yes, he sometimes picks some up on his way home. I appreciate it but wouldn't expect it - there are lots of ways to show you care and as long as he's showing me that somehow then I don't mind how!

[Begonias]

Once a year. Either for valentine's or mother's day- not both!

One year he bought a massive bunch of flowers and put them in the utility room, I got excited thinking he obviously bought them for me and hid them from me. Turns out they were for his mum!

[EarthSight]

Hardly ever on his own. If he has, it's usually because we're in the supermarket together and I've spotted something I'd like.

[WineNotTheLabel]

Birthday, anniversary, Valentine's.

I'd rather he did not, I would prefer my own pick. He spends £25on a "special" bunch, I would prefer freesias.

I love the idea someone would pick flowers from the garden and put them in a vase.

[funnylittlefloozie]

Yes, my DP buys me flowers regularly, because he knows it makes me very happy to be given flowers, and he likes making me happy. We are only talking supermarket bouquets usually, but its a lovely thoughtful little gesture.

My exH bought me flowers ONCE, after our DD was born. He thought flowers were a waste of money, money that could be much better spent on alcohol for him.

[JonHammIsMyJamm]

@EpochTime

Just to satisfy my curiosity, please. Does your OH buy you flowers? My OH seems to think he's a prince among men for buying me flowers occasionally, as apparently not many men do this! From my experience, I'm convinced he's wrong!

No, but then it’s not something I value as a romantic gesture. He does lots of things for me that I do value as romantic gestures, from the little daily things (like dog walks together) to grander gestures like surprise weekends away.

[mindutopia]

Sometimes, maybe once every year or two, but he also knows I’m generally not impressed by flowers. A nice steak or bottle of wine or something that I’d actually enjoy is much preferable.

Personally, I think most people who need grand gestures like that to make it look like they care probably are doing it more for show and a reaction than anything. For instance, my stepdad buys my mum a lot of flowers. He’s a selfish hollow twat though. It’s definitely more about love bombing and being performative than actually being a loving great guy.

[Gigia]

Yes often. Usually at least once a fortnight and my ds buys them for his girlfriend regularly too

[NatalieH2220]

Not very often but he does surprise me sometimes if he knows I've had a tough day or stressed. Don't get flowers as birthday/valentines gifts. He knows a chocolate bar is better received!

[beavisandbutthead]

Every christmas he gets stunning red roses from the local florists. There usually festive style and I love them.

He doesnt buy them often but will surprise me with them. He has great taste and will take his time over them.

[MsSquiz]

Yes. He set up a bloom and wild subscription for flowers once a month, but he also will randomly pick up flowers if he's out and about and sees a bunch that he thinks I'd like

[SparkyTheCat]

Yes, he buys me a particular type and colour of flower which he knows is especially significant to me. More importantly though, he brings me a coffee in bed every morning

[Sexnotgender]

Yes he does. And I buy him flowers too😊

[Pyewhacket]

Only if he wants something.

[pipnchops]

Not very often but he is kind in lots of other ways. I actually am kind of glad because when people give me flowers I find it a bit of a hassle, I have to sort them out into a vase, find somewhere to put them, then I don't really notice them until one day I realise they've died, dropped petals everywhere which I have to clean up and then I feel a bit sad for them as I chuck them in the bin. So I'm not really a flower sort of person I don't think!

[from2metersthrowmeasweet]

No but only because he knows I don't like them 😂
He brings me a Costa on his way home from his night shift because he knows I like that better than flowers x

[Chickenwing]

Never. Never makes me a tea either. Hmmph.

[corythatwas]

No. Together for close on 40 years, happily married.

Tbh I prefer our Valentine's ritual where we exchange boxes of chocolates and then sit down evening after evening to companionably consume 3 chocolates per night.

[johnd2]

Tell your husband he is not in competition with other husbands, it's your relationship and what other people do doesn't matter!
Sounds like he feels underappreciated in some way, maybe his mum would have liked more flowers and his dad never did, so he has assumed you're the same and his dad is average.
Stop discussing whether or not he is above average and start talking about how he feels and how you feel about the flowers.

[Imfromhere]

Yes. A few times a year. Just randomly. The last time was because I had just started a new job and was stressed and knackered so he bought me some to cheer me up. It worked

[Clockstop]

No because I hate flowers. He'll buy me a toffee crisp if he sees one though. That's romance for you.

[sparklepink]

he will when I marry him! (have to meet him first ;-)

[frustrationcentral]

Nope and I'll be honest it really upsets me

It's such a simple thing he could do, my favourite flowers are actually really cheap - so I'm not expecting large bouquets.

I often treat myself and comment that it's sad I have to buy my own, but he never catches on. He's not brilliant with presents in general. Always says I'm hard, so effort is minimal - I'm really not hard, there's not much I don't like!

[sosickofthisshit]

No. He buys me chocolate. Much more useful 😁