Lame reply from new man ?

[gardencreations99]

long story short - met a bloke a few weeks ago, I took his number he never had mine, I messaged him, said something like 'Hi how's your day going, hope the rest of your day was good after we chatted' His reply 'hi, yeah day good, did X/Y/Z have a good day xx' and then left it at that. A very closed response. He was all over me when we last spoke he seemed really keen.
Am I reading into this too much ?

Sorry, but id put a good ten pounds on him being attached.
Regardless of going to "his house"
He's either with someone, not interested or plain boring as hell.
Move along, there shouldn't even be doubts like this so early in, if he was interested....he wouldn't have you guessing

The ball is in his court now. If he actually likes you he needs to show it. I couldn't be bothered with these mind games - I'd just back off and see if he ups his game. If not, you've dodged a bullet!

Op. Cmon a man you’ve met four times has talked about long term?

He’s just after sex. If he was interested in you he’d ask questions. You know this.

OP, I think these lockdowns are turning people a bit bonkers.
Stop contacting him and IF he asks you out on dates, go out to meet him and get to know him. Don't invite him around to yours for a Saturday afternoon cuppa and shag.
If any man starts talking about the future and going on holiday/living together in the first few months, tell him to take a chill pill. Look up 'future faking'.

Hes mentioned about being together long term ie saying things like if we lived together we could do x/y/z sort of thing and he has talked about going on hols

After only meeting and snogging three times? He's not interested in your kids but talking of living together?

WOAH there, OP. I feel this will not end well for you.

Yeah you aren't in the right headspace to be healthily dating OP, this is absolute madness.

Look up 'future faking'

Yes, please do, OP.

Op how is your social circle? Do you have many friends? People who you can talk to and who can support you?

How old are you?

Op is 99 your date of birth?

It comes across, Op, that you're over keen and he's 'take it or leave it' . If that's the case I really don't think it would work.

I'm 42 he is 58
Interesting read re fake future
I don't know why i have fallen so quickly - maybe because I fancy him and we like the same things. Tbh he has blown me away, his attention was unexpected.
My head is all over the place.

Could he be just saying all this stuff for sex
I am waiting for his next move. I won't be contacting him again this week - though I really want to. I want to tell him how much I fancy him. I won't though.

Tbh he has blown me away, his attention was unexpected

What attention? The fact he snogs you? Really OP, with kindness, get a grip.

Oh, wait - you're 42. This could be perimenopause talking. Your body is desperate for a last chance at breeding. Not your mind - your hormones.

Tbh he has blown me away, his attention was unexpected

OP I'm saying this gently but if your bar for being blown away is this (snogging a few times and them telling you how on the same wavelength you are while actually not asking about you) then you really aren't in a healthy headspace to be dating. I assumed you were very young, early 20s maybe, as you sound so very naive.

I'm worried that you're going to end up upset and shocked when this turns out to be nothing much - I really think you'd do well to take a step back from him and have a think about what you want and what behaviour is healthy when it comes to relationships.

You shouldn't be blown away or falling for someone based on this minuscule amount of emotional connection or time shared with each other.

So you have chased him and he's not really responded except for the snogging thing. Men are really very simple creatures. If he was seriously interested in you he'd have chased you for your number, not the other way round.
Always remember.... he's the hunter, you're the prize. Old fashioned I know however they are still cave men 🤷‍♀️

Ok, I thought you were very young.

He’s not really given you any attention op. I’m sorry. He comes round, fools around. Answers your questions and then leaves.

Are you very lonely?

This is bizarre how can you not have had phone numbers?

Also I’m not sure you have interpreted the rules correctly, isn’t it that you choose one other single household to form a bubble? Not invite workmen in for a snog because you live alone?

@TwentyViginti

Oh, wait - you're 42. This could be perimenopause talking. Your body is desperate for a last chance at breeding. Not your mind - your hormones.

Oh give over

😂

Bluntness100 perimenopausal rutting is a thing!

Not taking your number shows he is not even interested in a booty call.

@TwentyViginti

Bluntness100 perimenopausal rutting is a thing!

Yes, she’s chucking herself a blokes working in her street because she’s going through peri. That’s what it will be, she just can’t help it. We are all at it. We hit forty and all bets are off we just can’t control ourselves any more and loose all sense of control 😂

He said he thinks about me all week

Sure

Also he is not your "new man" is he?

I turned 40 in January, good thing its lockdown because who knows who I would be throwing myself at!!

@KurriKawari

I turned 40 in January, good thing its lockdown because who knows who I would be throwing myself at!!

Be careful out there after December 2nd!